me and my ex broke up cause of alot of promblems that we had !!and like i still have feeling for him but i want to get over those feeling but i cant!how do i get over those feelings that i have for him?and i kno he has no feeling for me cause he told me!and we only went out for 2months and broke up!How to deal with a break up?
You were only with him for 2 months I know you can develop strong feelings for someone but you moved too soon because it was easy for him to shake you off. My suggestion is go out with good girlfriends have some fun life is not over you will find someone else. This guy is not worth the time and effort emotionally you are spending being sad and depressed. Time and space from him will definitely heal this wound. Next relationship don't get so emotionally involved real quick sit back and watch how the guy is reacting to you. Believe me you will know in a very short time if he is worthy of you.How to deal with a break up?
Alot of people will tell you to just get out there and hook up with someone else. Now this works very well for guys. However, the majority of women are wired completely different from men, and random hookups very seldomly work for women trying to get over someone. The best thing you can do is just go on with your life, and do things to make you feel better about yourself. Go get a massage. Go get a manicure. Get a makeover. Go shopping. Just do what makes you happy, and you'll move on eventually.
Stay busy. Time is what it takes. The feelings will fade with time. Do things for yourself to make you feel good.
i'm kinda in the same situation...
FIDO
Forget
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Drive
On
Works every time...you will have feelling for someone else that can return them.
just forget it all and go on with your life .
Ok, the worst thing to do to get over him is by going out with someone else, so DON'T do that. The best thing to do is to wait on it. It could take a few weeks, or a few months. Honestly when i went out with my Gf and she broke up with me after a month, I decided to go out with someone else, but just couldnt. SO i broke up with her after a few days. Broke her heart, and it hurt me too. So the best thing to do is wait on it
';Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go'; Herman Hesse
Just be busy... don't make a munite that will make you think of him.. Then take away those things that will make you think of him like pictures, his gifts to you.. Be with your friends all the times.. Enjoy yourself so that you will not think of him
Try to keep yourself busy specially with your girlfriends , that's the only healthy way and the worst thing to do it date another person to forget him.
Friday, August 20, 2010
How should I deal with breaking up with girlfriend with baby due in 2 months?
I really dont know what to do. I want to fight it but it seems its not going to work out. She still wants me to be in the baby's life which I will be there for the baby. Should I just wait till we can work out later on or just keep fighting to work things out now.How should I deal with breaking up with girlfriend with baby due in 2 months?
When women are pregnant they aren't very rational. Give her space for now. After the baby is born, and all those pregnancy hormones are out of her body, she may realize just how much she misses you.
So, for now, just back off but let her know you're there. Make sure you're at the hospital for the baby's birth. And be there to help as much as possible afterwards.
Six months to a year from now, you'll know absolutely whether it's over, or it was just a very bad hormone thing.How should I deal with breaking up with girlfriend with baby due in 2 months?
If you can't get harmony in your lives, don't subject the baby to it. The baby deserves a happy home, and if that means two homes (one for mom and one for dad) it's better than teaching him/her that a normal life is full of anger and hostility. If it works out later, all the better. Good luck and congratulations!!
Im 6 months pregnant. My now husband had to deal with my mood swings all these months. I tried to stay normal, despite of all the things that have happened to us: like his brother staying in our house, having to do chores despite of my situation...
If you really want to do the right thing for you and your baby and you love her deeply, I think you should be more patient. Talk to her, tell her you understand her mood swings, but you also have feelings. Try not to be too harsh on her, when we are pregnant, we are waaaay too sensitive. She will understand... and you guys will work out. Merry Christmas!
You should go ahead and end it. its better to raise the child as civil associates or as friends then as a bitter couple soon to be ex couple. I learned this from my own personal experience.
Your Baby? You should take out a large life insurance policy and after the baby that you will abandon is born you can off yourself so he/she will not have to grow up in poverty.
Try being a man.Take care of your kid.In 18 years you be selfish and do what you want. And get yourself fixed people like you shouldn't reproduce.
love is not a free thing...your not either a lover or a fighter....your a fighting lover....i say keep strong...if you have the will to keep hold of this relationship, then keep fighting. you may not realize it, but maybe your subconsience is the source of your want to leave...maybe your just scared. but if you dont fight for love...you will never get it...
if ure still gonna help take care of the baby then.........
i dont think so
If this is true arent you lucky.You get to run off leaving her with baby and problems.Look in mirror:there is a really big man.
yea man stick it out, my wife is 8 months prego and she is absolutely crazy just ignore her and say yes dear. it works.
just tell her that her hormones are killing the relationship...
Dont leave her she really needs you right now so wait and see if you can work it with the baby
you really should be there for her...it's a stressful time for you both! maybe take a couple days away for yourself, explain to her that you need a break, but then come back and handle the situation like a MAN. you have a responsibility...maybe not to her but to the child. Putting her under any sort of stress right now isn't good for the baby. So do what you need to do to destress yourself, reflect on the entire situation, and decide what's best for you and your girlfriend and your baby. After its born, then reevaluate your relationship and the reality of it working out or not. you never know unless you try!
she has alot in her hands right now a human is growing in her stomach wouldnt you be piss at someone just be there for her and help her as much as you can give her space it might go away after the baby is born****
U creep! now you r breakin' up w/her! you should have suffer labor pains like she'll have too. why did you break up with her, was it convenient?
Just take the easy way out. Why not, it's the easy way! Move on to the next girl, knock her up too, and then you can leave her as well. Staying together for the baby isn't something that you should do, but people who have answered this question are right. Women are nuts during a pregnancy, but you have already committed to her to be around for that. You owe her at least that much. Wait around for a couple months and see how things go. You can't just run out on her now.
follow ur heart %26amp; instincts
if you feel it isnt going to work out, dont stay in the relationship for the baby's sake ..
you can still be a good father without being in the relationship with the mother.
if you want to make it work, then try again .. but if that fails.. theres your answer
goodluck
Hormones are probably the reason she seems absolutely impossible. I think it is important that you are there for her right now. I would not break up with her til after the baby is born. Most important right now should be the safe, delivery of your healthy child.
Good Luck
Have either one of you tried counseling?
How old are the two of you?
And although she is due in two months did you really think this through?
I wish you the best of luck as well as for the baby who will be hurt in the long run if the two of choose to fight his/her entire life.
Remember you and the mother are the force behind the new life that the two of you are bringing into the world.
Just go with the flow, she will probably come around after the birth of the baby. Just be available for emotional support and when the baby is delivered. the two of you have a life long commitment like it or not. There is no way you will not be a part of her life for at least the rest of this child's life. Good luck and God bless****
if its because of her actions, realize its the hormones talking, she will be back to her normal self after the baby is born. but keep your promise and be there for your child
Hey man...I know your girl must be absolutely crazy right now...but cut her some slack. Hold out until the baby comes around, she is going to change a lot once she gets that little thing in her hands. You owe it to your baby to be there when its born! Trust me things are freakin nuts right now but she will be a better person once this thing is out of her body!
When women are pregnant they aren't very rational. Give her space for now. After the baby is born, and all those pregnancy hormones are out of her body, she may realize just how much she misses you.
So, for now, just back off but let her know you're there. Make sure you're at the hospital for the baby's birth. And be there to help as much as possible afterwards.
Six months to a year from now, you'll know absolutely whether it's over, or it was just a very bad hormone thing.How should I deal with breaking up with girlfriend with baby due in 2 months?
If you can't get harmony in your lives, don't subject the baby to it. The baby deserves a happy home, and if that means two homes (one for mom and one for dad) it's better than teaching him/her that a normal life is full of anger and hostility. If it works out later, all the better. Good luck and congratulations!!
Im 6 months pregnant. My now husband had to deal with my mood swings all these months. I tried to stay normal, despite of all the things that have happened to us: like his brother staying in our house, having to do chores despite of my situation...
If you really want to do the right thing for you and your baby and you love her deeply, I think you should be more patient. Talk to her, tell her you understand her mood swings, but you also have feelings. Try not to be too harsh on her, when we are pregnant, we are waaaay too sensitive. She will understand... and you guys will work out. Merry Christmas!
You should go ahead and end it. its better to raise the child as civil associates or as friends then as a bitter couple soon to be ex couple. I learned this from my own personal experience.
Your Baby? You should take out a large life insurance policy and after the baby that you will abandon is born you can off yourself so he/she will not have to grow up in poverty.
Try being a man.Take care of your kid.In 18 years you be selfish and do what you want. And get yourself fixed people like you shouldn't reproduce.
love is not a free thing...your not either a lover or a fighter....your a fighting lover....i say keep strong...if you have the will to keep hold of this relationship, then keep fighting. you may not realize it, but maybe your subconsience is the source of your want to leave...maybe your just scared. but if you dont fight for love...you will never get it...
if ure still gonna help take care of the baby then.........
i dont think so
If this is true arent you lucky.You get to run off leaving her with baby and problems.Look in mirror:there is a really big man.
yea man stick it out, my wife is 8 months prego and she is absolutely crazy just ignore her and say yes dear. it works.
just tell her that her hormones are killing the relationship...
Dont leave her she really needs you right now so wait and see if you can work it with the baby
you really should be there for her...it's a stressful time for you both! maybe take a couple days away for yourself, explain to her that you need a break, but then come back and handle the situation like a MAN. you have a responsibility...maybe not to her but to the child. Putting her under any sort of stress right now isn't good for the baby. So do what you need to do to destress yourself, reflect on the entire situation, and decide what's best for you and your girlfriend and your baby. After its born, then reevaluate your relationship and the reality of it working out or not. you never know unless you try!
she has alot in her hands right now a human is growing in her stomach wouldnt you be piss at someone just be there for her and help her as much as you can give her space it might go away after the baby is born****
U creep! now you r breakin' up w/her! you should have suffer labor pains like she'll have too. why did you break up with her, was it convenient?
Just take the easy way out. Why not, it's the easy way! Move on to the next girl, knock her up too, and then you can leave her as well. Staying together for the baby isn't something that you should do, but people who have answered this question are right. Women are nuts during a pregnancy, but you have already committed to her to be around for that. You owe her at least that much. Wait around for a couple months and see how things go. You can't just run out on her now.
follow ur heart %26amp; instincts
if you feel it isnt going to work out, dont stay in the relationship for the baby's sake ..
you can still be a good father without being in the relationship with the mother.
if you want to make it work, then try again .. but if that fails.. theres your answer
goodluck
Hormones are probably the reason she seems absolutely impossible. I think it is important that you are there for her right now. I would not break up with her til after the baby is born. Most important right now should be the safe, delivery of your healthy child.
Good Luck
Have either one of you tried counseling?
How old are the two of you?
And although she is due in two months did you really think this through?
I wish you the best of luck as well as for the baby who will be hurt in the long run if the two of choose to fight his/her entire life.
Remember you and the mother are the force behind the new life that the two of you are bringing into the world.
Just go with the flow, she will probably come around after the birth of the baby. Just be available for emotional support and when the baby is delivered. the two of you have a life long commitment like it or not. There is no way you will not be a part of her life for at least the rest of this child's life. Good luck and God bless****
if its because of her actions, realize its the hormones talking, she will be back to her normal self after the baby is born. but keep your promise and be there for your child
Hey man...I know your girl must be absolutely crazy right now...but cut her some slack. Hold out until the baby comes around, she is going to change a lot once she gets that little thing in her hands. You owe it to your baby to be there when its born! Trust me things are freakin nuts right now but she will be a better person once this thing is out of her body!
How do you deal with a break up?
well me and my first real bf broke up. we said we will still be friends and maybe go out again someday, but i feel so sad, and sick it makes my stomach feel weird. i still really like him and i know he likes me but at school we didn't even act like bf and gf. but i feel bad. he said he wants to date me but he doesn't know. what should i do?How do you deal with a break up?
i wish i newHow do you deal with a break up?
oh i was gonna say go party with your girlfriends..but your still in school..but get over it..your young you know how many other guys there are out there..
dont sweat it.
just go to school, contiuously, looking hott! ;)
Ignore him, because he doesnt sound like such a great guy if hes not showing you affection in public.
Take care.
but dont sweat the bs %26amp; boys!
Keep yourself busy read so bowling, skating,hang out with family/friends
ice cream
and
sad movies romantic ones
really tell him how you feel you will feel so much better when you get it off your chest even if you dont get the answer you want that feeling in your stomach will go away once your done...i been thru that before....but if it doesnt come out the way you want hang in there just remember if you love somone let them go and if it come back to you it was meant to be
Ok this just happen to me last week me and my first real bf broke up but wat made it hard is he is my bestfriend and the way i handled it was i cryed a little b/c its just somehting we do and then i was like you know this really sucks right now and i still have feelings for him to but all you can do is keep that friendship alive cuzz that is wat me and him are doing we are still friendsat first it was a little wired but now i mean i have gotten us to it. I mean dont get me wrong its hard sometimes talking to him but i mean it was for the best. There is no really way to handle it you just have to do what feels right to you snd what will help you. I mean do what u think is best
sorry if this does not really help but i hope it does
good luck
just let time go by...If it is meant to happen then it will....
i wish i newHow do you deal with a break up?
oh i was gonna say go party with your girlfriends..but your still in school..but get over it..your young you know how many other guys there are out there..
dont sweat it.
just go to school, contiuously, looking hott! ;)
Ignore him, because he doesnt sound like such a great guy if hes not showing you affection in public.
Take care.
but dont sweat the bs %26amp; boys!
Keep yourself busy read so bowling, skating,hang out with family/friends
ice cream
and
sad movies romantic ones
really tell him how you feel you will feel so much better when you get it off your chest even if you dont get the answer you want that feeling in your stomach will go away once your done...i been thru that before....but if it doesnt come out the way you want hang in there just remember if you love somone let them go and if it come back to you it was meant to be
Ok this just happen to me last week me and my first real bf broke up but wat made it hard is he is my bestfriend and the way i handled it was i cryed a little b/c its just somehting we do and then i was like you know this really sucks right now and i still have feelings for him to but all you can do is keep that friendship alive cuzz that is wat me and him are doing we are still friendsat first it was a little wired but now i mean i have gotten us to it. I mean dont get me wrong its hard sometimes talking to him but i mean it was for the best. There is no really way to handle it you just have to do what feels right to you snd what will help you. I mean do what u think is best
sorry if this does not really help but i hope it does
good luck
just let time go by...If it is meant to happen then it will....
I am really struggling to deal with this break-up鈥lease can I have your advice?
My ex left me about a month and a half ago. We had an amazing relationship (she was constantly saying how happy she was, how much I meant to her, how amazing I was etc) for 2 months, but in the third month I got insecure and this essentially pushed her away.
Unfortunately we have to see each other still as we are part of the same social circle and sports club. Since the break up we didn鈥檛 speak for a while. However, two weeks back we went away for the weekend with my social group. Here we got along well and even had a bit of flirting and banter again. When I got back from the weekend, we texted throughout the evening. She stated how happy she was that we were on speaking terms again, and flirted a little and then asked if I fancied getting a drink sometime.
I replied- then heard nothing from her.
In person she has pretty much ignored me since. We are friends on facebook but when we are both online she never speaks to me.
I don鈥檛 get this. Why could she be being like this. I really want her back in my life but don鈥檛 know what to do鈥?
Do I call her out on this behaviour? Do I just text and ask to meet for a drink? Do I just ignore it and wait for her to come to me (if she ever does)
Thanks in advance for your help.I am really struggling to deal with this break-up鈥lease can I have your advice?
I know how hard this can be because I've recently been through it. Personally if I were in your situation I'd give her one last shot.
Just say something along the lines of ';Hey, I hope you're doing OK. Would you still like to grab that drink sometime?';.
If she doesn't reply to you or make an effort, just take it as a no and seriously try to move on. Keep yourself busy and remember that just because you too split, the world doesn't stop revolving.I am really struggling to deal with this break-up鈥lease can I have your advice?
I am an expert by no means, however, I think she may be scared that things will get back to how they were, and then get all weird again, which would be a bad thing right? so in my honest opinion I would call her and arrange to meet somewhere neutral so neither of you feel threatened emotionally and talk frankly about how you both feel, and if there is a future for the relationship, i think from what you have said she is still interested, but don't force her, just let her do what she wants in her own time, whilst letting her know you are there waiting when she is ready, DON'T go for the waiting for her to come, in my experience she may think you don't care and have moved on and she may do the same.
good luck and I hope it all works out for you both.
Unfortunately we have to see each other still as we are part of the same social circle and sports club. Since the break up we didn鈥檛 speak for a while. However, two weeks back we went away for the weekend with my social group. Here we got along well and even had a bit of flirting and banter again. When I got back from the weekend, we texted throughout the evening. She stated how happy she was that we were on speaking terms again, and flirted a little and then asked if I fancied getting a drink sometime.
I replied- then heard nothing from her.
In person she has pretty much ignored me since. We are friends on facebook but when we are both online she never speaks to me.
I don鈥檛 get this. Why could she be being like this. I really want her back in my life but don鈥檛 know what to do鈥?
Do I call her out on this behaviour? Do I just text and ask to meet for a drink? Do I just ignore it and wait for her to come to me (if she ever does)
Thanks in advance for your help.I am really struggling to deal with this break-up鈥lease can I have your advice?
I know how hard this can be because I've recently been through it. Personally if I were in your situation I'd give her one last shot.
Just say something along the lines of ';Hey, I hope you're doing OK. Would you still like to grab that drink sometime?';.
If she doesn't reply to you or make an effort, just take it as a no and seriously try to move on. Keep yourself busy and remember that just because you too split, the world doesn't stop revolving.I am really struggling to deal with this break-up鈥lease can I have your advice?
I am an expert by no means, however, I think she may be scared that things will get back to how they were, and then get all weird again, which would be a bad thing right? so in my honest opinion I would call her and arrange to meet somewhere neutral so neither of you feel threatened emotionally and talk frankly about how you both feel, and if there is a future for the relationship, i think from what you have said she is still interested, but don't force her, just let her do what she wants in her own time, whilst letting her know you are there waiting when she is ready, DON'T go for the waiting for her to come, in my experience she may think you don't care and have moved on and she may do the same.
good luck and I hope it all works out for you both.
How to deal with this break up?
answer this question please:/
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AoJfsyioZjtDTWkwDXrfDxfsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20091225025141AAVhdHiHow to deal with this break up?
if u really love him dnt stop trying to fix ur relationship but if u feel like it was better to break up and on the other hand u feel bad dnt ! ..just live ur life n try dating again after a while and keep you eyes open for a better man there is always one out there trust me ! good luckHow to deal with this break up?
since ur boyfriend wanna get back together, just get back first..don worry about the distance thing..i mean..just get back together first, and leave the rest..at least being together can make you feel better...even ur not gona see him, maybe you can still have him in ur heart..at least u can feel the love..so get back together!! u guys shouldn't be apart..
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AoJfsyioZjtDTWkwDXrfDxfsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20091225025141AAVhdHiHow to deal with this break up?
if u really love him dnt stop trying to fix ur relationship but if u feel like it was better to break up and on the other hand u feel bad dnt ! ..just live ur life n try dating again after a while and keep you eyes open for a better man there is always one out there trust me ! good luckHow to deal with this break up?
since ur boyfriend wanna get back together, just get back first..don worry about the distance thing..i mean..just get back together first, and leave the rest..at least being together can make you feel better...even ur not gona see him, maybe you can still have him in ur heart..at least u can feel the love..so get back together!! u guys shouldn't be apart..
Men and women,how you deal with a break-up?
i want to know honestly from both sexes how you deal with a breakup
also state if you are male or female :)Men and women,how you deal with a break-up?
';he to himself who binds a joy, does the winged life destroy; but he who kisses the joy as it flies, lives on in eternity's sunrise';.......this poem was written roughly 200 yrs ago and it still rings beautifully true !!! xxx says it all really ! i try to live with this in mind but it's hard sometimes xxx me, i'm just a chilled and free aquarian....with no-one to make me smile !!! hee hee hee !! i'm over it !!!Men and women,how you deal with a break-up?
female - have a good cry, get on with my life, don't dwell over the past, have some good times without a man in tow, live life to the full.
Concentrate on being happy.
Ciggarettes, alcohol, short term bitterness, mild depression, burning of anything that reminds me of my ex and then back to reality time to move on
I deal with a breakup by hanging out with my friends and keeping my mind occupied. Just go out and have fun. Move on to better people and learn from the past
personally....i grieve as if someone has died. then i retreat and stay by myself for a while, until i'm ready to face the world again.
female- im going through a break up now. finding it so hard as i still love him so much but know the relationship aint right anymore. i dont know how to move on? hopefully my child will keep me going? good luck x
Drink, get bitter, find someone else, easy.
Plenty of booze and time with other people.
I'm a Male and it takes a Woman to get over a Woman...
You feel bad and then you get over it.
Chocolate and girls nights out great stuff :)
I just do what I normally do. Whats the point in moping?
accept it is over and move on..
also state if you are male or female :)Men and women,how you deal with a break-up?
';he to himself who binds a joy, does the winged life destroy; but he who kisses the joy as it flies, lives on in eternity's sunrise';.......this poem was written roughly 200 yrs ago and it still rings beautifully true !!! xxx says it all really ! i try to live with this in mind but it's hard sometimes xxx me, i'm just a chilled and free aquarian....with no-one to make me smile !!! hee hee hee !! i'm over it !!!Men and women,how you deal with a break-up?
female - have a good cry, get on with my life, don't dwell over the past, have some good times without a man in tow, live life to the full.
Concentrate on being happy.
Ciggarettes, alcohol, short term bitterness, mild depression, burning of anything that reminds me of my ex and then back to reality time to move on
I deal with a breakup by hanging out with my friends and keeping my mind occupied. Just go out and have fun. Move on to better people and learn from the past
personally....i grieve as if someone has died. then i retreat and stay by myself for a while, until i'm ready to face the world again.
female- im going through a break up now. finding it so hard as i still love him so much but know the relationship aint right anymore. i dont know how to move on? hopefully my child will keep me going? good luck x
Drink, get bitter, find someone else, easy.
Plenty of booze and time with other people.
I'm a Male and it takes a Woman to get over a Woman...
You feel bad and then you get over it.
Chocolate and girls nights out great stuff :)
I just do what I normally do. Whats the point in moping?
accept it is over and move on..
How Do I Help my Children Deal With Our Break Up?
We had a Particularly Volatile relationship, buy the end of it he was trying to brake into my house- which my youngest boy - 4 - witnessed.
He has a heart of gold as a father but has no clue how to deal with the world and i am not prepared to sit around while he promises to change.
My youngest is only 2- and seems to be almost unaware of the situation,
My eldest is 4 and as a result he is really acting up. I don't want to be any softer on him than normal Bcoz He finds it hard to deal with change and his dad not being around and starting school is a lot of change. I want to appear constant with him.
I am terrified of raising them alone - we have not lived with their dad for years -he was never around anyway - but now its official is scary.
so how do i help the boys to deal with this but remain constant so as not to upset them anymore?How Do I Help my Children Deal With Our Break Up?
Be honest but only as is suitable for the age of the child, assure them constantly that both you and your father love them and will always do so and will always be there for them. Obviously the two year old is not old enough to understand a lot and will accept the changes as the norm.
Get a third party involved a mediation or if necessary the courts to sort out the custody and visitation rights of their father and stick to them so the children have as much consistency as possible. Never allow your anger or bitterness show in front of the children, critisism of him will damage their self esteem.
It seems to me that you probably understand all of this and will do your best to minimise the impact on your children but you do need to make your home safe for them and yourself. So it might be necessary for you to get some sort of restraining order against their father coming to the house until he comes to terms with the situation and realises the damage he is causing by being violent or aggressive in front of them and ceases to do so.
You say he is a loving father so use this to make him realise that while your relationship is over you know he is a great father and you will always want him to be as much a part of the childrens lives as before and involved as much as possible in the children's care and upbringing.
Don't be scared you have obviously managed on your own and if you and their father can sort out a good agreement of shared parenting you will probably find it a lot easier than the way things are now.
Good luckHow Do I Help my Children Deal With Our Break Up?
You already know the answer - remain constant. This is the most important thing. That along with reminding them that you love them and you aren't going anywhere is very important. Make sure you don't let either of them ';get away'; with more because you feel bad for them, they are also at the age where they want to test their boundaries and see where they can get, it is important to be consistent with that as well. Im sorry, stay strong!
charleyc13 - that was unthoughtful, rude and inconciderate.
well...
1. don't marry someone unless you completely love them and there is no chance you'll break up because you want to be with each other forever. (or if you were stupid enough to have a child out of wedlock then you brought it on yourself)
2. they shouldn't have to deal with it
3. did you even think how this would affect them before you got divorced
fill them up with sweets
Luckily they're both so young and if he's hardly around anyway, they may not notice too much difference. Children find it so much easier to adapt to this sort of situation, they'll probably find it easier than you'll expect.
Of course there'll be some difficulties to start with, but you've just got to be there for them both, especially the eldest who has more concept with what's happening. Starting school can be difficult for children, just help him through the daily trivia, he'll soon perk up.
Befriend other parents in the playground, it should help your children settle in and make friends easier themselves if you're doing it too.
If you've been doing this yourself mainly anyway, you've nothing to be scared about. I'm sure you're a great parent, just keep doing everything the same as you already was. ^^Bounce back error message received from myspace games
He has a heart of gold as a father but has no clue how to deal with the world and i am not prepared to sit around while he promises to change.
My youngest is only 2- and seems to be almost unaware of the situation,
My eldest is 4 and as a result he is really acting up. I don't want to be any softer on him than normal Bcoz He finds it hard to deal with change and his dad not being around and starting school is a lot of change. I want to appear constant with him.
I am terrified of raising them alone - we have not lived with their dad for years -he was never around anyway - but now its official is scary.
so how do i help the boys to deal with this but remain constant so as not to upset them anymore?How Do I Help my Children Deal With Our Break Up?
Be honest but only as is suitable for the age of the child, assure them constantly that both you and your father love them and will always do so and will always be there for them. Obviously the two year old is not old enough to understand a lot and will accept the changes as the norm.
Get a third party involved a mediation or if necessary the courts to sort out the custody and visitation rights of their father and stick to them so the children have as much consistency as possible. Never allow your anger or bitterness show in front of the children, critisism of him will damage their self esteem.
It seems to me that you probably understand all of this and will do your best to minimise the impact on your children but you do need to make your home safe for them and yourself. So it might be necessary for you to get some sort of restraining order against their father coming to the house until he comes to terms with the situation and realises the damage he is causing by being violent or aggressive in front of them and ceases to do so.
You say he is a loving father so use this to make him realise that while your relationship is over you know he is a great father and you will always want him to be as much a part of the childrens lives as before and involved as much as possible in the children's care and upbringing.
Don't be scared you have obviously managed on your own and if you and their father can sort out a good agreement of shared parenting you will probably find it a lot easier than the way things are now.
Good luckHow Do I Help my Children Deal With Our Break Up?
You already know the answer - remain constant. This is the most important thing. That along with reminding them that you love them and you aren't going anywhere is very important. Make sure you don't let either of them ';get away'; with more because you feel bad for them, they are also at the age where they want to test their boundaries and see where they can get, it is important to be consistent with that as well. Im sorry, stay strong!
charleyc13 - that was unthoughtful, rude and inconciderate.
well...
1. don't marry someone unless you completely love them and there is no chance you'll break up because you want to be with each other forever. (or if you were stupid enough to have a child out of wedlock then you brought it on yourself)
2. they shouldn't have to deal with it
3. did you even think how this would affect them before you got divorced
fill them up with sweets
Luckily they're both so young and if he's hardly around anyway, they may not notice too much difference. Children find it so much easier to adapt to this sort of situation, they'll probably find it easier than you'll expect.
Of course there'll be some difficulties to start with, but you've just got to be there for them both, especially the eldest who has more concept with what's happening. Starting school can be difficult for children, just help him through the daily trivia, he'll soon perk up.
Befriend other parents in the playground, it should help your children settle in and make friends easier themselves if you're doing it too.
If you've been doing this yourself mainly anyway, you've nothing to be scared about. I'm sure you're a great parent, just keep doing everything the same as you already was. ^^
How do you deal with a break up?
i was with this girl and everything was great. She decided she did not want to be with me and now she doesnt even want to be friends. She gave me no reason why and im jut so hurt by all of it. My whole life i was scared to open up to a girl in fear of this happening. I dont know what to do, my heart says i still like her but by mind is telling me that there is no chance of us being friends. She even went to the point to ask me to buy tickets off me for a game but doesnt want to be friends. I think she used me cause i was just there at the time and i took her to nice places she had never been. How am i suppose to not go back to being in a shell when this happens. Its hard to cause i didnt havea gf all through highschool either. Just sad and dont know how to deal with this. Anyone have any help for me would be great. Im so friggin lonely dont think i will ever find a girl that doesnt use me and truly cares abotu meHow do you deal with a break up?
Get out into the world!
You sound like a very shy guy, the best medicine is to meet new people and spend heaps of time with your friends. Sitting alone at home sulking isn't going to solve anything.How do you deal with a break up?
you will find a girl; it might not be now but in the future you will find the right girl for you. even though this happened, it wont always be like this and you should learn even though it will be hard to trust people because then you will find out who truely cares for you.
I have been there. Just remind yourself that you WILL eventually meet someone new, it may take a while, it may not, but it will happen. Until that time focus on improving yourself; work out, pick up a new skill, enjoy time with your friends. Before you know it you'll meet someone new and you wont even remember what's-her-face.
OK sorry for the first answer just try and get out more and meet new people don't go looking for a relationship it ll just put pressure on you try surround yourself with nice friendly people if that fails you could always have a little drink!!
i know its hard but you have to move on in your life, it might take you awhile but you'll get there, just remember to take baby steps, don't rush into things.
one word...family! they will be there for you. its so hard and im sorry to hear that you have had your heart broken. time does heal all even though i know its no consolation. but open up to your family and they will care for you
i hire an assassination squad. they do the work and clean it up to.
however most of the time i just say ------ , and move on
dude just suck it up and get over it there are other girls out there just get over it and go on with your life it will be easier.
Eat more beans and start farting more. That always helps.
Move on.
Drink and drown your sorrows my man.
Or smoke some weed, that will make you happy, i promise.
you know what here is all i can really say about this. the way you feel right now in general, is the worst you will ever feel with love. now i know you feel real bad, but in a while you will be ok and lookin for that next special someone. love,and life are full of hills you start up the hill you get to the top and start back down, just try not to trip and fall on the way down, because it can make the next upward climb a little harder. everything is gonna be alright.
This is her loss. Dont be sad. I know its hard but you will find someone perfect for you. Dont look for it. Be happy with yourself first %26amp; the girls will notice the confidence %26amp; they'll be fighting for you. Keep busy. Go out %26amp; date for a while. The second you act like you dont care is when she'll probably be up your a**. All girls are not like that %26amp; you have the rest of your life to find one. Dont give her that much power. Hang in there. These experiences are what makes you stronger.
The answer is you just put one foot in front of the other and keep living you life, taking pride that you know that you are a good person, and the sometimes crappy things happen to good people. Forget about the reasons for the breakup (though take a few hours to learn any lessons that might be there), and definitely forget about people that don't want you in their life.
To fall in love means taking the chance of putting yourself out there, risking something going wrong. If you don't risk it, it won't happen.
Learn to be happy with yourself, and find interesting hobbies or sports or activities to keep yourself entertained All this will make you a happier person, and happier with yourself. Knowing that you can survive, even be happy without someone in your life, is an amazing thing.
The kicker here is that all of those things also make you more attractive to others. People that are happy, confident and like themselves, that have hobbies, activities/adventures and play sports or whatever are actually out there meeting people. All this makes you more interesting and more attractive and someone people will be more interested in meeting.
Do it for yourself though and to meet friends in general - not just to meet a girl that you will be able to cling to and only feel secure when with her.
Meeting someone that is a good match takes time, so you MUST learn to enjoy the time before you find her, otherwise you'll just be miserable. You don't need to be miserable. You already have everything you need to be happy.
Try to stay busy. Hang out with friends. Read books to escape your mind. Are you old enough to go to a bar? If you are go out. See that there are other woman out there. Dress yourself nice so that you feel good. Do whatever makes you feel the best. If you have any female friends they are probably the best ones to call on right now. just try not to sulk for too long. give yourself some time to have a pitty party but then get out and get well
good luck to you
I know the feeling. Don't live in fear of opening up to other girls, just don't wear your heart on your sleeve. A guy broke my heart and left me for another chick, and I would have probably been extremely happy if we kept a friendship. Don't be discouraged, because you know what motivated me to get over it? I lost a good friend of mine for being so obsessive. I stopped paying attention to the ones who matter the most, and it gave me a reality check. Appreciate what you have, and think of romance as a bonus. Because more than likely, everytime you start dating a girl, it's not gonna work out. Don't force yourself to fall in love. To get over her, you need to avoid obsessing over her, even though its hard. And no, sometimes to get over someone is not going under someone else. A reality check is what allowed me to get over my ex. And of course it hurt like a *****, BUT, if you keep asking yourself why she did it over and over again, you'll never get anywhere! As of today, after about a year of that reality check, I've been over him, because I learned what is most important in my life. Ones that love me and would take a bullet for me. Start appreciating things alot more, because she's not worth it. And I have moved on, but like I said, I'm not wearing my heart on my sleeve. There's no need to. I'm not gonna open up as easily, because I'm more cautious. But don't confuse that with living with fear.
Get out into the world!
You sound like a very shy guy, the best medicine is to meet new people and spend heaps of time with your friends. Sitting alone at home sulking isn't going to solve anything.How do you deal with a break up?
you will find a girl; it might not be now but in the future you will find the right girl for you. even though this happened, it wont always be like this and you should learn even though it will be hard to trust people because then you will find out who truely cares for you.
I have been there. Just remind yourself that you WILL eventually meet someone new, it may take a while, it may not, but it will happen. Until that time focus on improving yourself; work out, pick up a new skill, enjoy time with your friends. Before you know it you'll meet someone new and you wont even remember what's-her-face.
OK sorry for the first answer just try and get out more and meet new people don't go looking for a relationship it ll just put pressure on you try surround yourself with nice friendly people if that fails you could always have a little drink!!
i know its hard but you have to move on in your life, it might take you awhile but you'll get there, just remember to take baby steps, don't rush into things.
one word...family! they will be there for you. its so hard and im sorry to hear that you have had your heart broken. time does heal all even though i know its no consolation. but open up to your family and they will care for you
i hire an assassination squad. they do the work and clean it up to.
however most of the time i just say ------ , and move on
dude just suck it up and get over it there are other girls out there just get over it and go on with your life it will be easier.
Eat more beans and start farting more. That always helps.
Move on.
Drink and drown your sorrows my man.
Or smoke some weed, that will make you happy, i promise.
you know what here is all i can really say about this. the way you feel right now in general, is the worst you will ever feel with love. now i know you feel real bad, but in a while you will be ok and lookin for that next special someone. love,and life are full of hills you start up the hill you get to the top and start back down, just try not to trip and fall on the way down, because it can make the next upward climb a little harder. everything is gonna be alright.
This is her loss. Dont be sad. I know its hard but you will find someone perfect for you. Dont look for it. Be happy with yourself first %26amp; the girls will notice the confidence %26amp; they'll be fighting for you. Keep busy. Go out %26amp; date for a while. The second you act like you dont care is when she'll probably be up your a**. All girls are not like that %26amp; you have the rest of your life to find one. Dont give her that much power. Hang in there. These experiences are what makes you stronger.
The answer is you just put one foot in front of the other and keep living you life, taking pride that you know that you are a good person, and the sometimes crappy things happen to good people. Forget about the reasons for the breakup (though take a few hours to learn any lessons that might be there), and definitely forget about people that don't want you in their life.
To fall in love means taking the chance of putting yourself out there, risking something going wrong. If you don't risk it, it won't happen.
Learn to be happy with yourself, and find interesting hobbies or sports or activities to keep yourself entertained All this will make you a happier person, and happier with yourself. Knowing that you can survive, even be happy without someone in your life, is an amazing thing.
The kicker here is that all of those things also make you more attractive to others. People that are happy, confident and like themselves, that have hobbies, activities/adventures and play sports or whatever are actually out there meeting people. All this makes you more interesting and more attractive and someone people will be more interested in meeting.
Do it for yourself though and to meet friends in general - not just to meet a girl that you will be able to cling to and only feel secure when with her.
Meeting someone that is a good match takes time, so you MUST learn to enjoy the time before you find her, otherwise you'll just be miserable. You don't need to be miserable. You already have everything you need to be happy.
Try to stay busy. Hang out with friends. Read books to escape your mind. Are you old enough to go to a bar? If you are go out. See that there are other woman out there. Dress yourself nice so that you feel good. Do whatever makes you feel the best. If you have any female friends they are probably the best ones to call on right now. just try not to sulk for too long. give yourself some time to have a pitty party but then get out and get well
good luck to you
I know the feeling. Don't live in fear of opening up to other girls, just don't wear your heart on your sleeve. A guy broke my heart and left me for another chick, and I would have probably been extremely happy if we kept a friendship. Don't be discouraged, because you know what motivated me to get over it? I lost a good friend of mine for being so obsessive. I stopped paying attention to the ones who matter the most, and it gave me a reality check. Appreciate what you have, and think of romance as a bonus. Because more than likely, everytime you start dating a girl, it's not gonna work out. Don't force yourself to fall in love. To get over her, you need to avoid obsessing over her, even though its hard. And no, sometimes to get over someone is not going under someone else. A reality check is what allowed me to get over my ex. And of course it hurt like a *****, BUT, if you keep asking yourself why she did it over and over again, you'll never get anywhere! As of today, after about a year of that reality check, I've been over him, because I learned what is most important in my life. Ones that love me and would take a bullet for me. Start appreciating things alot more, because she's not worth it. And I have moved on, but like I said, I'm not wearing my heart on my sleeve. There's no need to. I'm not gonna open up as easily, because I'm more cautious. But don't confuse that with living with fear.
How do I deal with a break up?
I was with a girl for about 5 years, things was good, not many fights. some small things here and there, nothing big. there was some big stuff 2 years into it, but we worked them out, and we was always there for each other, talking to each other about everyday for 5 years and seeing each other. -- now she break up with me. I try to get her back her getting flowers and nice dinners and crying and more stuff. she says she dont love me anymore. I dont know what to do. she never calls me anymore or anything. she used to call me everyday just to make sure I was ok and tell me she loves me. now this is killing me in side, 5 years of all the memorys and everything. I meet her when I was 18, I am now 23. I miss her and want to call her right now and just talk. but, I dont know if I should its been about 2 months since I seen her, and about week since we talked.
what should I do, try to talk to her tell her how I feel? or just move on and try to find another girl friend. really.my mind and heart tells me I dont want another girl friend. but, I dont like this alone feeling.
I still am my self and trying to stay strong.
thank you
How do I deal with a break up?
Its going to be hard at first but you have to move on. Its the hardest thing hearing someone you love tell you that they dont love you anymore. I think everyone goes through this at one point in their lives. It sucks but thats life. You need to just go out and have fun with your friends. You were young when you met her. There are so many girls out there. Once you start going out you may realize that you really didn't love her. How do I deal with a break up?
Take it from me I've been in this situation (well I'm currently in it) the fact is girls can be right bitches no matter how much you pour your heart and soul out to her she won't care trust me do not do this! Keep your self respect because at the end of today you will be with yourself forever she might not. now is the time to take charge of your life and be the man you want to be! if she doesn't love you then its HER loss in time you will find someone that loves you and you will be happy. Until then nows the time to do the things you've always wanted to do enjoy the single life for a while and get active don't just wallow in self pity.
best wishes Dan
well,,i no it hurts and i no how u feel
especially when someone tells u they dont love u anymore
but u gotta let her go because if she really wants nothing to do with u then your just gonna hurt urself, even mroe
but if she realizes ur not there anymore she might realize she ****** up big time and start to miss u and then shell call u u just have to wait for it,,i wouldnt get a girlfriend right away ur not emotianally stable for that i would just rely on ur friends for company they are the ones that will always be there for u.
what should I do, try to talk to her tell her how I feel? or just move on and try to find another girl friend. really.my mind and heart tells me I dont want another girl friend. but, I dont like this alone feeling.
I still am my self and trying to stay strong.
thank you
How do I deal with a break up?
Its going to be hard at first but you have to move on. Its the hardest thing hearing someone you love tell you that they dont love you anymore. I think everyone goes through this at one point in their lives. It sucks but thats life. You need to just go out and have fun with your friends. You were young when you met her. There are so many girls out there. Once you start going out you may realize that you really didn't love her. How do I deal with a break up?
Take it from me I've been in this situation (well I'm currently in it) the fact is girls can be right bitches no matter how much you pour your heart and soul out to her she won't care trust me do not do this! Keep your self respect because at the end of today you will be with yourself forever she might not. now is the time to take charge of your life and be the man you want to be! if she doesn't love you then its HER loss in time you will find someone that loves you and you will be happy. Until then nows the time to do the things you've always wanted to do enjoy the single life for a while and get active don't just wallow in self pity.
best wishes Dan
well,,i no it hurts and i no how u feel
especially when someone tells u they dont love u anymore
but u gotta let her go because if she really wants nothing to do with u then your just gonna hurt urself, even mroe
but if she realizes ur not there anymore she might realize she ****** up big time and start to miss u and then shell call u u just have to wait for it,,i wouldnt get a girlfriend right away ur not emotianally stable for that i would just rely on ur friends for company they are the ones that will always be there for u.
How to deal with this break up?
We were together for a lil over a year and for the past 2 years she has claimed she loves me more than her own life and wanted me to be the father of her children. We were great at first we trusted each other and I loved her dearly...but when I went back to school she started asking me if I was cheating on her and getting mad I couldn't spend all day doing nothing with her. So a week ago we had a fight and she told me she needed time to think about us and that was the last I heard from her. Yesterday I found out she deleted me from everything and got a new facebook page where she has a new bf that she is already telling him she loves him so much. I sent her a email asking her why wasn't she woman enough to just end us and say goodbye instead of running away like thief in the night. Needless to say no reply to any of messages, so I just deleted her from everything and got a new phone number email address and got rid of the dog we shared and burned all of her crap. Now I its finally fully hitting me just how f*ed up she is and its hurting like a motha. What should I do? am I better off without her like my friends have been saying( they have been telling me since day one they didn't trust her and not go out with her) Whats her deal?How to deal with this break up?
Don't CHASE them...REPLACE them!How to deal with this break up?
try to move on, maybe she will realize what a great person u where, if not, then her loss, im trying to do the same tho my ex is away in boot camp.
find someone else, then make her jealous
wow ditch her and move on. school should be your priority obviously she dnt love you. Move On :)
two words:
Move on.
I am so sorry. You didn't deserve that. You deserved proper communication and a ';real'; breakup, but sometimes life doesn't roll the way it should. You are better off without her. She's extremely immature and selfish. It's good you got rid of all of her stuff...that was always the hardest part of a breakup for me because once that stuff is gone it's like they're completely out of your life and not a part of you anymore. You deserve someone amazing.
When I'm dealing with a breakup I usually try to consume myself in something new...like getting a gym membership and working out everyday...or going skiing....or whatever else. I rely on friends too. They can be a big strength to you at this awful time in your life. Listen to your friends! Sometimes they can see things we are blinded by...
im goin thru the same thing with my ex we were 2gether for 2 years.. find a way to make her jealous like act like it dosnt bother u go out FLIRT WITH HER FRIENDS on facebook everywhere! us women hate it so much even if u think her friends ugly it axually works.. cry and let it all out even if ur a man its ok 2 cry! if she sees you dont want her back she'll want u back im a female trust me. i hope everything works for you.
well if she told you she '; loved '; you since the beginning it more then likely means she didnt. %26amp;%26amp; if she's out there telling some other guy that she '; loves '; him. then she either wants to get you jealous or make you honestly feel like **** because she thinks you did cheat on her. the point here is not to make her look good. But to show you that she NEVER did really love you. maybe in the end but i doubt it. if she really loved you she wouldnt be doing what shes doing. trust me i know girls. i am a girl. lol. just seriously move on.
%26amp;%26amp; of course it going to be hard to let go, %26amp; yes it hit you hard because after all the anger the emotions came. Thats why you feel the way you do. But its because you did truely care about her. It might be hard at first, and since it was a long relationship; maybe harder. but youll forget about her and look at her as someone who was and is no more.
-- i hope i helped :)
www.zomganime.com will help lol.
Sounds like she's insecure and not ready for a serious relationship until she sorts out personal issues of her own.
Why do you break your head over such trivial matters?? Just forget her and move on with life. She has found a new love or whatever you call it as and she wants to proceed with that. So what is your problem?????
Don't CHASE them...REPLACE them!How to deal with this break up?
try to move on, maybe she will realize what a great person u where, if not, then her loss, im trying to do the same tho my ex is away in boot camp.
find someone else, then make her jealous
wow ditch her and move on. school should be your priority obviously she dnt love you. Move On :)
two words:
Move on.
I am so sorry. You didn't deserve that. You deserved proper communication and a ';real'; breakup, but sometimes life doesn't roll the way it should. You are better off without her. She's extremely immature and selfish. It's good you got rid of all of her stuff...that was always the hardest part of a breakup for me because once that stuff is gone it's like they're completely out of your life and not a part of you anymore. You deserve someone amazing.
When I'm dealing with a breakup I usually try to consume myself in something new...like getting a gym membership and working out everyday...or going skiing....or whatever else. I rely on friends too. They can be a big strength to you at this awful time in your life. Listen to your friends! Sometimes they can see things we are blinded by...
im goin thru the same thing with my ex we were 2gether for 2 years.. find a way to make her jealous like act like it dosnt bother u go out FLIRT WITH HER FRIENDS on facebook everywhere! us women hate it so much even if u think her friends ugly it axually works.. cry and let it all out even if ur a man its ok 2 cry! if she sees you dont want her back she'll want u back im a female trust me. i hope everything works for you.
well if she told you she '; loved '; you since the beginning it more then likely means she didnt. %26amp;%26amp; if she's out there telling some other guy that she '; loves '; him. then she either wants to get you jealous or make you honestly feel like **** because she thinks you did cheat on her. the point here is not to make her look good. But to show you that she NEVER did really love you. maybe in the end but i doubt it. if she really loved you she wouldnt be doing what shes doing. trust me i know girls. i am a girl. lol. just seriously move on.
%26amp;%26amp; of course it going to be hard to let go, %26amp; yes it hit you hard because after all the anger the emotions came. Thats why you feel the way you do. But its because you did truely care about her. It might be hard at first, and since it was a long relationship; maybe harder. but youll forget about her and look at her as someone who was and is no more.
-- i hope i helped :)
www.zomganime.com will help lol.
Sounds like she's insecure and not ready for a serious relationship until she sorts out personal issues of her own.
Why do you break your head over such trivial matters?? Just forget her and move on with life. She has found a new love or whatever you call it as and she wants to proceed with that. So what is your problem?????
How can i deal with this break up?
well ill start from the begining i was with him for almost 2 years and just out of the blue he wanted to take a break for a few weeks i said ok. then as it went on i found out he left me for some other girl from his friend. so i just kept playin his game.. i hung out with a gew guys and he found out and got angry with me. and today i texted him telling him i didnt want this break and he told me he didnt want to be with me anymore because he feels like i went out there and had sex with other guys and that i drank and smoked weed. and that i shouldnt have done that or he would still want me, he didnt believe me when i told him it was not true. he said that he still didnt want to be with me and now im so hurt that after the 2 years we spent together and the loved we shared is shadderd. can someone please tell me how to deal with the pain. it hurts so bad all i think about is him. and i dont want to do this i dont want to feel like this. can someone please help me out. i need some helpHow can i deal with this break up?
Just hang around friends and do things to occupy your time.Think of it as,if he cared he would never have done this.He will come back and when he does dont accept him back.After two years of being with you he should have trusted you and known you wouldnt sleep with anyone else.Count it as a lesson learned and prosper from this experience.How can i deal with this break up?
well you let one go but dont forget there are more fishes in the ocean and take it as his loss not yours
Just hang around friends and do things to occupy your time.Think of it as,if he cared he would never have done this.He will come back and when he does dont accept him back.After two years of being with you he should have trusted you and known you wouldnt sleep with anyone else.Count it as a lesson learned and prosper from this experience.How can i deal with this break up?
well you let one go but dont forget there are more fishes in the ocean and take it as his loss not yours
How do i deal with this break up? After a four year relationship?
Me and my ex have been on and off for the pasted mouth, two weeks ago she calls me and want to get back with me. I agree, and we pick up where we left off. During the week i felt nothing wrong. She talked me how much she loved me and how she never wanted to leave me agian. Then when she got back from a trip last week she seemed distantant agian. Then on thanksgiving she told me she wants to move on. I called her again the next day and i asked her why she came back in the first place. She said she want to see if she can force herself to love me. But i dont understand how i could have missed those signs. I am confused and scared. I believe she doesnt know what she want and i think she may do this again. I want to move on but i still love her. I haven't talked to her in like three days now and i just dont know what to do. She was my first love. She told me she want to be alone and move on. but i cant for some reason. I still want her. What do i do? how can i move on or get her back?How do i deal with this break up? After a four year relationship?
Even if you still love her,,, she is not yours.... She doesn't feel the same way anymore... That should be enough. DO you want to be in a one-sided relationship.???? That would be devastating for your spirit and emotionally.... The fact that she is bouncing back and forth tells me she has a hard time controlling her impulses..She is playing with you like a puppet and is not even aware of it, as she is very selfish...
I know you love her, but you now know what she is Like and I think you want someone more stable in your life.... This is your release from her clutches, so walk away, lick your wounds and take your power back and stand tall..You didn't do anything wrong, so there is no making up for something... Life has a funny way of making decisions for us and be glad that you didn't loose anymore time. By the way , you can't be friends now either... it is too painful and she would be trying to manipulate you.. Get busy with family and friends and keep occupied... Once you heal a bit , then ask out someone else... don't rush into something , as you are nOT ready and would only hurt the other person.. and you know how that feels....give yourself some time bud....How do i deal with this break up? After a four year relationship?
You should move on, don't try to get her back. She missed you and thought she wanted to be back with you, but when you were back together, she didn't feel it. So she was honest and told you she wanted to move on. The best thing you can do is to involve yourself with other people and things and keep busy. Time will pass and you will be able to get over her. Also remember that your first love is the hardest to get over. Not that another one will be easy, but first love and all hurts and you think this is the one. Know that there is someone else out there for you that will love you and want to be with you. Good luck
I hate it when women treat men like that. That's why there are so many players in this world because of all the broken hearts around here. Try distracting yourself from her.
Its very easy to go through a good relationship and the true strength of your relationship comes out when you face problems. If its a case where you two just cant be together because of differencesm you need to take a mature approch to it and think for yourself what good it would do for both of you to be together. I think its always to part on good terms and be friends rather than being bitter and wasting everything that you went through together.
If you are sad, well then just go ahead and cry. Its fine to feel bad, depressed and hurt and time is the biggest healer. You should also try and change your lifestyle so that you are doing different things that are taking up your time.
Time will take care of the rest.
honey...you poor man. On again off again relationships are never going to get better. Move on. Let your heart heal. This relationship is just a repeated heartbreak. dont let her keep running back. If she cant honestly love you...you should look for someone who can.
good luck !
Even if you still love her,,, she is not yours.... She doesn't feel the same way anymore... That should be enough. DO you want to be in a one-sided relationship.???? That would be devastating for your spirit and emotionally.... The fact that she is bouncing back and forth tells me she has a hard time controlling her impulses..She is playing with you like a puppet and is not even aware of it, as she is very selfish...
I know you love her, but you now know what she is Like and I think you want someone more stable in your life.... This is your release from her clutches, so walk away, lick your wounds and take your power back and stand tall..You didn't do anything wrong, so there is no making up for something... Life has a funny way of making decisions for us and be glad that you didn't loose anymore time. By the way , you can't be friends now either... it is too painful and she would be trying to manipulate you.. Get busy with family and friends and keep occupied... Once you heal a bit , then ask out someone else... don't rush into something , as you are nOT ready and would only hurt the other person.. and you know how that feels....give yourself some time bud....How do i deal with this break up? After a four year relationship?
You should move on, don't try to get her back. She missed you and thought she wanted to be back with you, but when you were back together, she didn't feel it. So she was honest and told you she wanted to move on. The best thing you can do is to involve yourself with other people and things and keep busy. Time will pass and you will be able to get over her. Also remember that your first love is the hardest to get over. Not that another one will be easy, but first love and all hurts and you think this is the one. Know that there is someone else out there for you that will love you and want to be with you. Good luck
I hate it when women treat men like that. That's why there are so many players in this world because of all the broken hearts around here. Try distracting yourself from her.
Its very easy to go through a good relationship and the true strength of your relationship comes out when you face problems. If its a case where you two just cant be together because of differencesm you need to take a mature approch to it and think for yourself what good it would do for both of you to be together. I think its always to part on good terms and be friends rather than being bitter and wasting everything that you went through together.
If you are sad, well then just go ahead and cry. Its fine to feel bad, depressed and hurt and time is the biggest healer. You should also try and change your lifestyle so that you are doing different things that are taking up your time.
Time will take care of the rest.
honey...you poor man. On again off again relationships are never going to get better. Move on. Let your heart heal. This relationship is just a repeated heartbreak. dont let her keep running back. If she cant honestly love you...you should look for someone who can.
good luck !
How do I deal with a break-up after 4 years?
I just broke up with my girlfriend of over 4 years. Just fyi, I'm 23 and she is 20. We tried to end it with dignity, but it was not at all my decision. At first when I found out she wasn't happy, she was telling me a few things such as she thought I was irresponsible, or that I do things to make her mad on purpose. I didn't really believe that these were the reasons she wanted to end our relationship. They just didn't sound like a good reason to end everything. Well she started to tell me that she just wasn't happy anymore and that nothing makes her happy anymore and she doesn't know what she's doing now. She seems to be confused about the person she is or something to that effect. I know the right thing to do is to just let her go and do her soulsearching or whatever, but it just hurts so bad. How do you deal with this kind of loss. You've spent all your waking moments with this person. They are the most important person in your life, but now I've lost the thing I care most about.How do I deal with a break-up after 4 years?
man............ she is so unlucky to miss this sort of love and lover.may be that's what you call fate.truly understanding how you feel i can jus say one thing.TIME HEALS EVERYTHING. or may be take it this way god has a better person in store for you.find out if she still has da slightest love for you .if so try renewing and restrengthening your love.if not dont waste your life 4 someone who doesn't care n understand your love.life is short.enjoyit.forget her but not the memories of your good times.in your next relation ship be careful and avoid the supposed errors you made this time.good luck.How do I deal with a break-up after 4 years?
You have to respect her decision and go on with your life. It's going to be hard and it's going to hurt, but it will get easier as time goes on. Just spend as much time as you can with friends and family then dust yourself off and start going out with other girls.
You know what, I think you are in love with her and you simply want to respect her feelings. 4yrs is enough for you to study your girl, I'd advise you take time and find out what her problem is and mend fences with her. If you are the cause, then do the right. Otherwise, look elsewhere.
god man, you sound like me a year ago....every word you said...its too messy I can't even go there... I would hate that you waste your time moping around and hoping and getting depressed... first thing you should do is feel better about yourself.... yknow, like work out, be more active, talk with other people, try to choose to feel happy... think of what's left and love it and nurture it, like your family....and do things you can be proud of, and be a complete person, the person you always wished you could be... this is the time to be that... and after accomplishing that, you can go back dating...lol there is so much i could tell you..
I hear you my brother and I could totally relate. You need to realize that both of you are young and both are immature in your decision making process because hey your 23 and she's 20. I know when I was that age I was not ready to be in a long term relationship and 4 years is a realllllly long time. At that point you should know if this relationship is for real. You will know if she is willing to work things out. Unfortunately, she is unhappy and would like to move on (which I think its for the better). I had a relationship that lasted almost 5 years and I broke things up because I knew I didnt make her happy anymore....as much as it tore me up inside I knew that I had to let her go. I stopped talking to her for a long time and I knew that she was dating other people and I was doing the same. After a long period we kept in contact but it was never the same. We talk now every blue moon just to keep in touch and see how everything is going but I'm now with someone else and so is she. She seems happy and I could live with that. If both of you end up getting back together after some time then it was meant to be, but seriously dont push it. Good luck.
Your girlfriend seems like she is going through the same
feelings that I once did. Questioning about life, wondering about the latter, and ';soul searching';, as you state it is something I had to do a while back in order to realize what I was really looking for in my life. That realization that I was discontent at where I was in my own personal life is what basically made me sacrifice the man that I loved. Even though he was the one who brought me stableness and structure, ironically, was also the man that made me question the life I had, where I was heading and how I would be if one day he left me. Once those thoughts entered through my mind.. everything else became a matter of questions, answers and nonstop analyzing for me. It was a period of time I had of internal struggling with my independence and basically who I was as a person, and it was very hard to try and find the answers to these questions, especially when I had something so precious I was clinging onto, preventing me from exploring the outside of my boundary lines. It made me utterly confused and not knowing what to do for a long time. Like you, I too was in a 4 year relationship. He was 9 years older than me and at that time, I was very young. It was hard to let him go, even when I was the one to initiate the breakup. Because we were in a relationship for so long.. small matters such as trust and jealousy wasn't the issue for us. We basically had a strong bond and familiarity that we both took comfort in, knowing that society could not steal us away from one another. Because of this comfort, I was able to concentrate on things that were at that time important to me, all the while knowing I had someone there to support me through it. Eventually, over time, built on top of that period of peace, I began to see things in a different light that made me question exactly where I was heading down the road, especially in such a serious relationship.
Your ex must be feeling the same way, and I'm glad that you've realized the right thing to do is to give her some time. She is only 20 and no matter the maturity of her personality, she is still young---no longer a girl, but not yet a woman. You might be content at where you're at right now, but for her, I believe she is confused and searching answers to something much more complicated than what you see. It's a sort of spiritual search that people have, similar to the ones that make people question the existent of God, or the structure of science. Some people live life searching for that one right person to spend eternity with, while others have found that feeling of love and now want to experience more. For your ex, she must have found that love and is now questioning her place in the world and who she is. Because she is only 20, I assume you two have dated when she was around 16. You are probably her first love. This feeling of growing up and not having the chance to experience much (for example, more serious relationships, or perhaps things that she could not do independently-- college, move away? -- because she was tied down to you) and not knowing whether or not you're the right man for her can also be a contribution to her confusion and decisions. This is the type of loss where you can't be selfish but to only be understanding. I am sure you've impacted her life greatly and that she will always love you deep down. Especially since you two departed in such a way. Just give her time and she will appreciate you for this understanding, as a friend or a lover. Perhaps then she'll realize what an ideal relationship she had and how you truly love her like she loves you. After this reassurance, she might just wind up back with you again. But remember, sometimes love is sacrifice. I know it is hard but you can't force her to be with you once you know that she is not ready for a relationship (in your case, not any more). You should deal with this breakup by taking the opportunity to go explore and like her, find yourself as an independent man.
Be strong and from the depths of my heart.. I truly wish you the best of luck with your break up. I know the pain and how helpless you must feel right now in order to seek comfort from here. Please remember that we all go through these once in a life time heartbreaks and that no matter what.. life will still go on. The world is still revolving and so is everything else breathing on it. You will eventually move on.. no matter how unconvincing that sounds to you right now.Bounce back error message received from myspace games
man............ she is so unlucky to miss this sort of love and lover.may be that's what you call fate.truly understanding how you feel i can jus say one thing.TIME HEALS EVERYTHING. or may be take it this way god has a better person in store for you.find out if she still has da slightest love for you .if so try renewing and restrengthening your love.if not dont waste your life 4 someone who doesn't care n understand your love.life is short.enjoyit.forget her but not the memories of your good times.in your next relation ship be careful and avoid the supposed errors you made this time.good luck.How do I deal with a break-up after 4 years?
You have to respect her decision and go on with your life. It's going to be hard and it's going to hurt, but it will get easier as time goes on. Just spend as much time as you can with friends and family then dust yourself off and start going out with other girls.
You know what, I think you are in love with her and you simply want to respect her feelings. 4yrs is enough for you to study your girl, I'd advise you take time and find out what her problem is and mend fences with her. If you are the cause, then do the right. Otherwise, look elsewhere.
god man, you sound like me a year ago....every word you said...its too messy I can't even go there... I would hate that you waste your time moping around and hoping and getting depressed... first thing you should do is feel better about yourself.... yknow, like work out, be more active, talk with other people, try to choose to feel happy... think of what's left and love it and nurture it, like your family....and do things you can be proud of, and be a complete person, the person you always wished you could be... this is the time to be that... and after accomplishing that, you can go back dating...lol there is so much i could tell you..
I hear you my brother and I could totally relate. You need to realize that both of you are young and both are immature in your decision making process because hey your 23 and she's 20. I know when I was that age I was not ready to be in a long term relationship and 4 years is a realllllly long time. At that point you should know if this relationship is for real. You will know if she is willing to work things out. Unfortunately, she is unhappy and would like to move on (which I think its for the better). I had a relationship that lasted almost 5 years and I broke things up because I knew I didnt make her happy anymore....as much as it tore me up inside I knew that I had to let her go. I stopped talking to her for a long time and I knew that she was dating other people and I was doing the same. After a long period we kept in contact but it was never the same. We talk now every blue moon just to keep in touch and see how everything is going but I'm now with someone else and so is she. She seems happy and I could live with that. If both of you end up getting back together after some time then it was meant to be, but seriously dont push it. Good luck.
Your girlfriend seems like she is going through the same
feelings that I once did. Questioning about life, wondering about the latter, and ';soul searching';, as you state it is something I had to do a while back in order to realize what I was really looking for in my life. That realization that I was discontent at where I was in my own personal life is what basically made me sacrifice the man that I loved. Even though he was the one who brought me stableness and structure, ironically, was also the man that made me question the life I had, where I was heading and how I would be if one day he left me. Once those thoughts entered through my mind.. everything else became a matter of questions, answers and nonstop analyzing for me. It was a period of time I had of internal struggling with my independence and basically who I was as a person, and it was very hard to try and find the answers to these questions, especially when I had something so precious I was clinging onto, preventing me from exploring the outside of my boundary lines. It made me utterly confused and not knowing what to do for a long time. Like you, I too was in a 4 year relationship. He was 9 years older than me and at that time, I was very young. It was hard to let him go, even when I was the one to initiate the breakup. Because we were in a relationship for so long.. small matters such as trust and jealousy wasn't the issue for us. We basically had a strong bond and familiarity that we both took comfort in, knowing that society could not steal us away from one another. Because of this comfort, I was able to concentrate on things that were at that time important to me, all the while knowing I had someone there to support me through it. Eventually, over time, built on top of that period of peace, I began to see things in a different light that made me question exactly where I was heading down the road, especially in such a serious relationship.
Your ex must be feeling the same way, and I'm glad that you've realized the right thing to do is to give her some time. She is only 20 and no matter the maturity of her personality, she is still young---no longer a girl, but not yet a woman. You might be content at where you're at right now, but for her, I believe she is confused and searching answers to something much more complicated than what you see. It's a sort of spiritual search that people have, similar to the ones that make people question the existent of God, or the structure of science. Some people live life searching for that one right person to spend eternity with, while others have found that feeling of love and now want to experience more. For your ex, she must have found that love and is now questioning her place in the world and who she is. Because she is only 20, I assume you two have dated when she was around 16. You are probably her first love. This feeling of growing up and not having the chance to experience much (for example, more serious relationships, or perhaps things that she could not do independently-- college, move away? -- because she was tied down to you) and not knowing whether or not you're the right man for her can also be a contribution to her confusion and decisions. This is the type of loss where you can't be selfish but to only be understanding. I am sure you've impacted her life greatly and that she will always love you deep down. Especially since you two departed in such a way. Just give her time and she will appreciate you for this understanding, as a friend or a lover. Perhaps then she'll realize what an ideal relationship she had and how you truly love her like she loves you. After this reassurance, she might just wind up back with you again. But remember, sometimes love is sacrifice. I know it is hard but you can't force her to be with you once you know that she is not ready for a relationship (in your case, not any more). You should deal with this breakup by taking the opportunity to go explore and like her, find yourself as an independent man.
Be strong and from the depths of my heart.. I truly wish you the best of luck with your break up. I know the pain and how helpless you must feel right now in order to seek comfort from here. Please remember that we all go through these once in a life time heartbreaks and that no matter what.. life will still go on. The world is still revolving and so is everything else breathing on it. You will eventually move on.. no matter how unconvincing that sounds to you right now.
How do you deal with a break up? My bf and I broke up cause he does want a relationship or any responsibilty?
and I am a single mom he is the first guy that i have let around my son execpt family and his father and i just think the idea of a new relationship is scary how will i know who to trust again. He was really good with my son; my son is almost six monthsHow do you deal with a break up? My bf and I broke up cause he does want a relationship or any responsibilty?
Only time helps. stay away from anyone who is just cruising.How do you deal with a break up? My bf and I broke up cause he does want a relationship or any responsibilty?
Seems to have some things in his favor.I know your son is too little yet to be aware of this guy.But if he's into meeting with your family,then this a good sign.You are right to be cautious though
Only time helps. stay away from anyone who is just cruising.How do you deal with a break up? My bf and I broke up cause he does want a relationship or any responsibilty?
Seems to have some things in his favor.I know your son is too little yet to be aware of this guy.But if he's into meeting with your family,then this a good sign.You are right to be cautious though
How do you deal with a break up?? 10 points?
i just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years..i had to..he hit me..i'm 19 and even though i know i had to break up with me the pain is killing me..has anyone gone through the same thing?? any advice? since i only hung out with have i'm not even close to my friends anymore..how long do u think it will take to heal..he still calls me and calls me and calls me??do u think i'll feel the most pain when he stops calling..please help
i don't want to end up going back to him because i know he will hit me again!!!How do you deal with a break up?? 10 points?
FIRST OF ALL CUT HIM OFF TOTALLY, SCREEN HIS CALLS , HE'LL TRY AND TRY UNTIL HE'S FED UP,HE'S A LOSER FOR HITTING YOU,
ALL I'M GONNA SAY IS UR STILL YOUNG U DON'T NEED THIS ****
DROP THAT LOSER NOW!!!!
GOOD LUCKHow do you deal with a break up?? 10 points?
defiantly DONT go back. break ups are very difficult especially one of 5 years.....if he still is calling you then no matter how hard it is DONT answer his calls.....you need to distance yourself away from him and talking to him on the phone or really anytime isn't going to help since you just broke up.....i don't know how long it will take because everyone will heal at a different pace.....just go out make new friends and keep yourself busy....your pain will eventually start to fade away maybe slowly but it will. just keep yourself away from him until you have completely gotten over him because then it will be way difficult to ever get over the relationship
hope i helped :)
Think about this, if he truly loves you then he wouldn't be hitting on you and causing you pain. He has some type of mental issue! Be glad that you were able to leave him. Find comfort in the fact that you will be able to love again. If you can, change your number beacuse anytime he calls it will only open old wounds. It will get easier over time.
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i'm so sorry that he hit you: a guy like that is not worth your time and affection. i think that you should really find some good friends who will help you through this. and i don't mean alcohol... maybe avoid relationships for awhile... take some time for yourself..maybe try yoga?
xoxo
no dont go back to him, it might take yo months to get over him trust me ive been threw it. just make sure you throw all the gifts and memories away and try not to think of him i know it will be hard.
Hope i helped %26lt;3
Cut him out of your life. Get rid of anything that will remind you of him.
just remember HE hit you. what hurts more?
Watch the movie ';Yes Man'; and do what Jim Carrie does.
i don't want to end up going back to him because i know he will hit me again!!!How do you deal with a break up?? 10 points?
FIRST OF ALL CUT HIM OFF TOTALLY, SCREEN HIS CALLS , HE'LL TRY AND TRY UNTIL HE'S FED UP,HE'S A LOSER FOR HITTING YOU,
ALL I'M GONNA SAY IS UR STILL YOUNG U DON'T NEED THIS ****
DROP THAT LOSER NOW!!!!
GOOD LUCKHow do you deal with a break up?? 10 points?
defiantly DONT go back. break ups are very difficult especially one of 5 years.....if he still is calling you then no matter how hard it is DONT answer his calls.....you need to distance yourself away from him and talking to him on the phone or really anytime isn't going to help since you just broke up.....i don't know how long it will take because everyone will heal at a different pace.....just go out make new friends and keep yourself busy....your pain will eventually start to fade away maybe slowly but it will. just keep yourself away from him until you have completely gotten over him because then it will be way difficult to ever get over the relationship
hope i helped :)
Think about this, if he truly loves you then he wouldn't be hitting on you and causing you pain. He has some type of mental issue! Be glad that you were able to leave him. Find comfort in the fact that you will be able to love again. If you can, change your number beacuse anytime he calls it will only open old wounds. It will get easier over time.
My question: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
i'm so sorry that he hit you: a guy like that is not worth your time and affection. i think that you should really find some good friends who will help you through this. and i don't mean alcohol... maybe avoid relationships for awhile... take some time for yourself..maybe try yoga?
xoxo
no dont go back to him, it might take yo months to get over him trust me ive been threw it. just make sure you throw all the gifts and memories away and try not to think of him i know it will be hard.
Hope i helped %26lt;3
Cut him out of your life. Get rid of anything that will remind you of him.
just remember HE hit you. what hurts more?
Watch the movie ';Yes Man'; and do what Jim Carrie does.
How do i deal with a break up? i totalling think i ruined everything.. =[?
so me and this guy have been together for about 2 1/2 years
well, we broke up. and i found out he sent another girl flowers cause she was having a ';bad week';.. and i didn't get **** from him for my 16th birthday!
we broke up in december, but we always hung out and did stuff, and he always told me how i was his only girl.. blah blah blah
well, today i'm seriously hurt and i seen him walking down the hall way together, and i told him tonight, that i kind think we need a break cause i feel like everything i have worked my *** off for is ruined...
now, he really doesn't wanna talk, cause he is hurt,
and
im late on my period, {took a test today said negative?}
and i told my ex that i was late last month.. and i didn't tell the guy i wanna keep, so he is upset about that, which i didn't tell him cause i didn't want him worried like he is now...
help!
idk what to do!!
=[How do i deal with a break up? i totalling think i ruined everything.. =[?
talk to him and find out what he wants and be honest with him and make sure you see a doctor and find out if your pregnant you need to make sure to get prenatal care if you areHow do i deal with a break up? i totalling think i ruined everything.. =[?
First, head to the doctor and find out for sure about the baby.
Second, sit him down and ask him straight out if he wants you or not.
the one thing you should definately be open with the guy whether he likes it or not
he would like to know the truth
well, we broke up. and i found out he sent another girl flowers cause she was having a ';bad week';.. and i didn't get **** from him for my 16th birthday!
we broke up in december, but we always hung out and did stuff, and he always told me how i was his only girl.. blah blah blah
well, today i'm seriously hurt and i seen him walking down the hall way together, and i told him tonight, that i kind think we need a break cause i feel like everything i have worked my *** off for is ruined...
now, he really doesn't wanna talk, cause he is hurt,
and
im late on my period, {took a test today said negative?}
and i told my ex that i was late last month.. and i didn't tell the guy i wanna keep, so he is upset about that, which i didn't tell him cause i didn't want him worried like he is now...
help!
idk what to do!!
=[How do i deal with a break up? i totalling think i ruined everything.. =[?
talk to him and find out what he wants and be honest with him and make sure you see a doctor and find out if your pregnant you need to make sure to get prenatal care if you areHow do i deal with a break up? i totalling think i ruined everything.. =[?
First, head to the doctor and find out for sure about the baby.
Second, sit him down and ask him straight out if he wants you or not.
the one thing you should definately be open with the guy whether he likes it or not
he would like to know the truth
How to deal with a break up (long term relationship)?
i've been wt my boyfriend well now ex...for more than 6 years now, we have had a lot of problems throughout our relationship...cheating from his part, breaking up with me numerous times just 4 the fact of him wanting to go out and experience life.. we were high school sweethearts! i never been or had another boyfriend and he never had another girlfriend....i know he still loves me and i love him but our last fight was actually for a stupid reason but i think he is just so tired of so much drama that after that he asked for some time to figure were things are going...but at the same time he said he wanted to just break up... i have extreme anxiety, have been prescribed with antidepressants and i just feel like i wanna call him all the time to yield at him and ask why he is doing this to me... i'm very hurt.. how can i cope with the anxiety and depression, how do I just move on. any tips ;)How to deal with a break up (long term relationship)?
So did you not have another boyfriend just like he never had another girlfriend? Sounds like he's been sowing his oats while you remained the dutiful, faithful girlfriend. After 6 years and you're still just a girlfriend? There's a time to move on, experience life, and find out who you are. Good luck...How to deal with a break up (long term relationship)?
If it's not working out now, it won't work out later.
Just do your best to forget about him.
Surround yourself with happy people and friends.
Actually I wouldn't look for another guy right away.
Go out for a night with your girls, you don't need more
guy drama--sounds like you've had plenty of that.
Rent a romantic comedy and pig out with your girls!!~
ask yourself this question,is he going to stop flirting around after marriage.if not then move on with life.start asking the question,who am i?what kind of person am i?am i treating others the way i want others to treat me.
yes go look for someone else it sound mean but as soon as u find soemone cute u will be fine its always worked for me too u just get so caughtup in th enew person its like ex boyfriend who? go out with friends too single friends ones with boyfrinds or girlfriends will just make u more depressed. u will be ok we all go through a broken heart atleast once usually more.
is there another guy that u like cuz in situations like this the girl likes another guy kinda go out with some 1 new and c if he's tryna get back together with u if s0 g0 out with the new guy still
i'm practically in the same boat girl, when you get good answers, let me know.
well I wasn't with my ex for as long as u were with yours (only 1 yr) but he was my first and only everything, and one night I got a text saying that it was over, 2 weeks later I found out that he was now with a co-worker of his.. I never got a phone call and I haven't seen or heard from him since (this was 5 months ago). I was devastated, at first I couldn't eat or sleep for almost 2 weeks. But I clung to my friends and family for support %26amp; advice. Many nights I wanted call him, or go see him but I knew he would just act like a coward and ignore me so i didn't. But i did erase his number from my cell, and put up all the things he ever gave me (in a box). I forced myself to find new things to do, and while my heart was still broken I fixed it by loving myself. I now know I am better off without him, even though I didn't believe it @ first I got over it, I have actually been great for a long time (I'm even flirting with a new guy now, he's great)!! Be strong you can get over it too!!!!
Good luck!!! %26amp; be STRONG!!!
Romantic depression cure:
Step 1 - Leave cheating, lying, extremely selfish boyfriend.
I'm sorry this had to end badly for you, but your belief that he ';still loves you'; is apparently mistaken. If he DID love you, he never would have done all of that fooling around in the first place, much less break up with you now. From what you've said, the only real love in this relationship is your boyfriend's egotistical love for himself. It's going to suck emotionally for a while, I won't lie, but putting this jerk behind you is the only way for you to move on and become happy again.
Step 2 - Cultivate a healthy (and if need be, angry) self-respect.
You're blaming yourself (';drama';) for this break-up. Don't. As I said before, this guy's immense selfishness torpedoed the relationship. That isn't a bad reflection on you; it's a reflection on his own bad attitude. Sooner or later (probably sooner) he will get hurt by someone else who refuses to put up with his crap the way you did, and it will be a good lesson for him. In the meantime, don't inflate his huge ego even further. Hold your head high and move on.
Step 3 -- Find new boyfriend who cares about YOU and loves you for who YOU are, not as an ornament for his ego.
Take your time with this one--no need to hurry, or find a ';rebound'; guy, which could hurt the situation even worse. Instead, once you're totally over your ex, or at least 99% over him, get back out into the dating world and find someone who cares as much about you as you do about him.
If you want to move on, go and look for different guys. You may think he's the best guy, but you haven't been with anyone else to realize he may be the worst. Maybe try meeting someone new, then things can only go up from there. Just keep your distance, it worked for me. Not talking to him, and not being in his presence helps so much. YOu'll see
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Sounds like he's a tool. You shouldn't have to put up with someone breaking up with you all the time or cheating on you. He obviously isn't ready for a serious commitment if he wants to keep breaking up so he can ';experience the world';.
He's a jerk, but it's still going to be hard to get over him. Just spend time with your friends and family and do things that YOU want to do. Pamper yourself and make some goals for yourself. When you reach them you'll feel a great new sense of self-worth. This will help you get over him.
Sorry, girl.
So did you not have another boyfriend just like he never had another girlfriend? Sounds like he's been sowing his oats while you remained the dutiful, faithful girlfriend. After 6 years and you're still just a girlfriend? There's a time to move on, experience life, and find out who you are. Good luck...How to deal with a break up (long term relationship)?
If it's not working out now, it won't work out later.
Just do your best to forget about him.
Surround yourself with happy people and friends.
Actually I wouldn't look for another guy right away.
Go out for a night with your girls, you don't need more
guy drama--sounds like you've had plenty of that.
Rent a romantic comedy and pig out with your girls!!~
ask yourself this question,is he going to stop flirting around after marriage.if not then move on with life.start asking the question,who am i?what kind of person am i?am i treating others the way i want others to treat me.
yes go look for someone else it sound mean but as soon as u find soemone cute u will be fine its always worked for me too u just get so caughtup in th enew person its like ex boyfriend who? go out with friends too single friends ones with boyfrinds or girlfriends will just make u more depressed. u will be ok we all go through a broken heart atleast once usually more.
is there another guy that u like cuz in situations like this the girl likes another guy kinda go out with some 1 new and c if he's tryna get back together with u if s0 g0 out with the new guy still
i'm practically in the same boat girl, when you get good answers, let me know.
well I wasn't with my ex for as long as u were with yours (only 1 yr) but he was my first and only everything, and one night I got a text saying that it was over, 2 weeks later I found out that he was now with a co-worker of his.. I never got a phone call and I haven't seen or heard from him since (this was 5 months ago). I was devastated, at first I couldn't eat or sleep for almost 2 weeks. But I clung to my friends and family for support %26amp; advice. Many nights I wanted call him, or go see him but I knew he would just act like a coward and ignore me so i didn't. But i did erase his number from my cell, and put up all the things he ever gave me (in a box). I forced myself to find new things to do, and while my heart was still broken I fixed it by loving myself. I now know I am better off without him, even though I didn't believe it @ first I got over it, I have actually been great for a long time (I'm even flirting with a new guy now, he's great)!! Be strong you can get over it too!!!!
Good luck!!! %26amp; be STRONG!!!
Romantic depression cure:
Step 1 - Leave cheating, lying, extremely selfish boyfriend.
I'm sorry this had to end badly for you, but your belief that he ';still loves you'; is apparently mistaken. If he DID love you, he never would have done all of that fooling around in the first place, much less break up with you now. From what you've said, the only real love in this relationship is your boyfriend's egotistical love for himself. It's going to suck emotionally for a while, I won't lie, but putting this jerk behind you is the only way for you to move on and become happy again.
Step 2 - Cultivate a healthy (and if need be, angry) self-respect.
You're blaming yourself (';drama';) for this break-up. Don't. As I said before, this guy's immense selfishness torpedoed the relationship. That isn't a bad reflection on you; it's a reflection on his own bad attitude. Sooner or later (probably sooner) he will get hurt by someone else who refuses to put up with his crap the way you did, and it will be a good lesson for him. In the meantime, don't inflate his huge ego even further. Hold your head high and move on.
Step 3 -- Find new boyfriend who cares about YOU and loves you for who YOU are, not as an ornament for his ego.
Take your time with this one--no need to hurry, or find a ';rebound'; guy, which could hurt the situation even worse. Instead, once you're totally over your ex, or at least 99% over him, get back out into the dating world and find someone who cares as much about you as you do about him.
If you want to move on, go and look for different guys. You may think he's the best guy, but you haven't been with anyone else to realize he may be the worst. Maybe try meeting someone new, then things can only go up from there. Just keep your distance, it worked for me. Not talking to him, and not being in his presence helps so much. YOu'll see
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Sounds like he's a tool. You shouldn't have to put up with someone breaking up with you all the time or cheating on you. He obviously isn't ready for a serious commitment if he wants to keep breaking up so he can ';experience the world';.
He's a jerk, but it's still going to be hard to get over him. Just spend time with your friends and family and do things that YOU want to do. Pamper yourself and make some goals for yourself. When you reach them you'll feel a great new sense of self-worth. This will help you get over him.
Sorry, girl.
How to deal with a break up, no smart arses, no jerks, real answers?
ok here it goes: For 8 months i have been going out with this guy. We were seriously into each other, and it was something really special. Well, now we go to different schools, and barely talk to each other( did i mention he lives about 4 hours away) so a few days ago we broke up and went our ways. What really gets me is that he told me he loved me before he said bye, completely. Please, someone tell me what the hell i can do to get over this break up, seriously, it hurts really bad. please. How to deal with a break up, no smart arses, no jerks, real answers?
long relationship's really don't work work bc of this, like if you''d call him he'd be busy and you would never find the right time to talk, i think you should just move on, and enjoy your time, and eventually you'll find a guy in the right place at the right time for you =]How to deal with a break up, no smart arses, no jerks, real answers?
a long distance relationship will not work.. of course you both still love each other but you both know its not going to work. what you need to do is try and keep occupied, keep your mind off of him as much as possible. go out with your friends, tell them how your feeling they will be there for you, that's what they are there for! don't worry things will get better!
long relationship's really don't work work bc of this, like if you''d call him he'd be busy and you would never find the right time to talk, i think you should just move on, and enjoy your time, and eventually you'll find a guy in the right place at the right time for you =]How to deal with a break up, no smart arses, no jerks, real answers?
a long distance relationship will not work.. of course you both still love each other but you both know its not going to work. what you need to do is try and keep occupied, keep your mind off of him as much as possible. go out with your friends, tell them how your feeling they will be there for you, that's what they are there for! don't worry things will get better!
How do I deal with this break up?
My boyfriend and I broke up about 3 days ago. I think it was a mutual break up, but I'm the one who came out and said that it wasn't going to work. He asked me if I'd still talk to him and stuff, and I have to see him this upcoming weekend at a graduation party for a mutual friend. I don't know if i should talk to him before I see him at this party, or wait until the party to talk to him??? The thing is we both still like eachother and the reason for us breaking up makes no sense. We both are confused and hurt.How do I deal with this break up?
why did you split up in the first place?
maybe you can re-unite at the graduation?
let him contact you before hand or wait until the party... give you both some head space to do some thinking.How do I deal with this break up?
you can speak to him when you see him.. no sence in being rude. really think about your reason for breaking up and if it's a good one or something you cant deal with then dont try to get back together.. i was in a relationship for 6 years and when we broke up i went through what your going through.. even questioned myself.. but you get over it you just gotta let that hurt run it's course.. you will live again.. now i'm more in love than ever before and i wouldnt have found it if i sat like a lost puppy over my ex.. but if your reason is silly and you really love one another..and the both of you want to be back together.. then i would just tell him.. hey i'm sorry i made a mistake and i want you back...
if you still have feelings, why don't you try and work it out. Not talking to him will make him feel like you don't care at all, wait until the party and maybe you should have a long talk about relationship and find out why you broke up in the first place and go from there.
it sounds like maybe you shouldnt of broken up if you both like each other and it was for a stupid reason you should tell him that. I think maybe you should talk to him before the party this way its not weird when you both see eah other and you dont want to fight at someones party. good luck =)
if its meant to be some way yall will fall back into eachother arms.but if you want him and he want you ..gone had and get back together because you gon regrete it if you start seeing him with another woman..so dont give another woman an opportunity to get what you know you should and want to have
Then why did you break up? Bond alittle. Maybe it will work this time... I hope. Well, if you see him at the party then talk to him about it and maybe consiture getting back together...
I would call him before the party and see how he feels about you two possibly giving it another go. Good luck to you!!
you two really need to sit down and talk and try to make some sense out of this whole mess.
its simple if u hate him just tell him that u r sorry and that u can still be friends if u like him just ask him out. and then on da date....this my sound weird but....KISS HIM!
the best way to get over someone is to get under another want my number lol
why did you split up in the first place?
maybe you can re-unite at the graduation?
let him contact you before hand or wait until the party... give you both some head space to do some thinking.How do I deal with this break up?
you can speak to him when you see him.. no sence in being rude. really think about your reason for breaking up and if it's a good one or something you cant deal with then dont try to get back together.. i was in a relationship for 6 years and when we broke up i went through what your going through.. even questioned myself.. but you get over it you just gotta let that hurt run it's course.. you will live again.. now i'm more in love than ever before and i wouldnt have found it if i sat like a lost puppy over my ex.. but if your reason is silly and you really love one another..and the both of you want to be back together.. then i would just tell him.. hey i'm sorry i made a mistake and i want you back...
if you still have feelings, why don't you try and work it out. Not talking to him will make him feel like you don't care at all, wait until the party and maybe you should have a long talk about relationship and find out why you broke up in the first place and go from there.
it sounds like maybe you shouldnt of broken up if you both like each other and it was for a stupid reason you should tell him that. I think maybe you should talk to him before the party this way its not weird when you both see eah other and you dont want to fight at someones party. good luck =)
if its meant to be some way yall will fall back into eachother arms.but if you want him and he want you ..gone had and get back together because you gon regrete it if you start seeing him with another woman..so dont give another woman an opportunity to get what you know you should and want to have
Then why did you break up? Bond alittle. Maybe it will work this time... I hope. Well, if you see him at the party then talk to him about it and maybe consiture getting back together...
I would call him before the party and see how he feels about you two possibly giving it another go. Good luck to you!!
you two really need to sit down and talk and try to make some sense out of this whole mess.
its simple if u hate him just tell him that u r sorry and that u can still be friends if u like him just ask him out. and then on da date....this my sound weird but....KISS HIM!
the best way to get over someone is to get under another want my number lol
How do you deal with a break up with someone you still want to be with?
I'm not experience enough to know how to leave someone alone long enough to let them come back around. How do I do this? How long do I wait and when the time comes, what do I say?
Just recently he broke up with me and I haven't been sure how to handle it.
Please keep in mind we were best friends for a long time. I wrote him every day in basic training and always supported him and when he could, he'd do the same.
Now that we are broken up, I have tried talking to him but all he does is call me crazy.
I'm not exactly sure how to handle this break up especially because he still acts like we are in a relationship.
[Meaning he gets jealous when other guys flirt with me]
For the first few days he acted like he needed his space, but when I gave it to him he would only read comments on myspace from other guys and freak out
I DO know where everything went wrong, I just need to know how to become detached enough for him to have breathing space, with out him getting mad at me. I do not like making him upset.
Background:
About six months ago, I fell in love with this amazing guy. The only problem was that he was to leave for the boot camp a few days later, he asked me to be his girlfriend before he left and I happily agreed.
A few months later we started having problems because he started acting careless about the content of his myspace and facebook pages. Mainly, I was upset because these were the only things that I could see from him. I didn't trust him with my feelings. Seemed fair.
After he realized the mistake he had made, he apologized and made it clear he wouldn't speak to her or see her again.
Ever since then we had been having problems, mainly because I still felt like I couldn't trust him. I would go to visit him and when I would come back, one of his friends would inappropriately comment his pictures or his page. He still didn't take my feelings and left them where I could see them. This caused our relationship to become even shakier.
About a month ago, I found out through a friend that he was still talking to the girl whom he had posted somewhat inappropriate pictures with. I was devastated. So ever since then it's been a battle of apologize and fix the situation.How do you deal with a break up with someone you still want to be with?
Listen, he broke up with you, and he hurt you.
You deserve alot better than him. I understand you still have feelings for him and you don't want to make him mad, but you arn't in a relationship anymore. He left you and didn't take your feelings into consideration. Just try to find someone new. As time goes on it'll get easier. It'll hurt for a while, but thats just something that happens, and then one day you'll find the perfect person who treats you good and will give you everything you deserve. And if he gets mad at that, when your happy, then he's not a very good choice. If he was someone you should love with all your heart and stay with, he'd want whats best for you and for you to be happy. Every person has the choice to love who they want to, so if you want to still love him you can, but it'll be painful. The best thing to do is to try and move on. You'll find someone better in time
Just recently he broke up with me and I haven't been sure how to handle it.
Please keep in mind we were best friends for a long time. I wrote him every day in basic training and always supported him and when he could, he'd do the same.
Now that we are broken up, I have tried talking to him but all he does is call me crazy.
I'm not exactly sure how to handle this break up especially because he still acts like we are in a relationship.
[Meaning he gets jealous when other guys flirt with me]
For the first few days he acted like he needed his space, but when I gave it to him he would only read comments on myspace from other guys and freak out
I DO know where everything went wrong, I just need to know how to become detached enough for him to have breathing space, with out him getting mad at me. I do not like making him upset.
Background:
About six months ago, I fell in love with this amazing guy. The only problem was that he was to leave for the boot camp a few days later, he asked me to be his girlfriend before he left and I happily agreed.
A few months later we started having problems because he started acting careless about the content of his myspace and facebook pages. Mainly, I was upset because these were the only things that I could see from him. I didn't trust him with my feelings. Seemed fair.
After he realized the mistake he had made, he apologized and made it clear he wouldn't speak to her or see her again.
Ever since then we had been having problems, mainly because I still felt like I couldn't trust him. I would go to visit him and when I would come back, one of his friends would inappropriately comment his pictures or his page. He still didn't take my feelings and left them where I could see them. This caused our relationship to become even shakier.
About a month ago, I found out through a friend that he was still talking to the girl whom he had posted somewhat inappropriate pictures with. I was devastated. So ever since then it's been a battle of apologize and fix the situation.How do you deal with a break up with someone you still want to be with?
Listen, he broke up with you, and he hurt you.
You deserve alot better than him. I understand you still have feelings for him and you don't want to make him mad, but you arn't in a relationship anymore. He left you and didn't take your feelings into consideration. Just try to find someone new. As time goes on it'll get easier. It'll hurt for a while, but thats just something that happens, and then one day you'll find the perfect person who treats you good and will give you everything you deserve. And if he gets mad at that, when your happy, then he's not a very good choice. If he was someone you should love with all your heart and stay with, he'd want whats best for you and for you to be happy. Every person has the choice to love who they want to, so if you want to still love him you can, but it'll be painful. The best thing to do is to try and move on. You'll find someone better in time
How can i deal with this break up?? We were together for 3 years!! Thanks for any help anyone has!?
Im from Scotland and she is Danish and i moved to Copenhagen to be with her. Im 21 and she is 19 and we have been living together for a year and she is still living with me. She told me a few nights ago she wants to break up but she still loves me a lot and wants me to be her best guy friend and stay close with me. She is still living with me 5 days sfter she told me about breaking up and she still sleeps in the same bed as me too.. When she talks a lot of the time she keeps saying things like we and us etc.. I still love her and want to be with her and she still loves me she says and that i will always have that special place in her. What should i do? This is hard. Im just trying my best to respect her feelings and be there for her. She also says the reason for the break up is because she wants to just focus on herself for awhile and not worry about anything else and after time she says there is a good chance we can get back together. Its stupid though as 2 weeks ago we went and just bought a dog together, an 8 weeks old king charles and its getting used to the apartment and if she moves out its going to effect the dog too moving again! Thanks for any help you have to offer!How can i deal with this break up?? We were together for 3 years!! Thanks for any help anyone has!?
This is what happened...You are 21, she is 19...You two are still at an age where your mind is mostly dominated by your hormones...( don't object to it, trust me I've been there just like millions of other people)
At this age, you should date as many people as you like and enjoy life. Your mind, body, maturity and experience level is not yet ready to handle such a relationship and commitment.
I congratulate her for doing the right thing...She is so young and wants to explore the world and learn more about herself along the way...I think you should do the same...
P.S: Dog is an excuse and you know it...:)How can i deal with this break up?? We were together for 3 years!! Thanks for any help anyone has!?
Tell her to stop messing you around and tell you whats going on. She can't do this to you...Maybe she just said it to get your attention?
Talk to her, find out what shes planning.
i went throught a similar thing we had a dog for about 2 months before we split but the dog is not ur concern, sorry mate but u need to giv her an ultimatum which is either ur with me or ur not, if your not thats fine but move out so i can move on cos i cant while u are here, if we are then u are and work through ur issues.
she is being selfish and only thinking about herself tho, it sounds like she wants to go and experiment other people as she may feel like she is missing out (on the dating game) cos u have been together since she was 16, she mite need a bit of time to make her realise that you are the one for her and 8 times out of ten they do come back.
i wish u all the luck.
Sorry but no excuses. This woman has taken advantage of you. She must have known all along she didn't want something serious yet had you going all the way to Europe to live with her. She basically wants sex and attention without any emotional comittment. Maybe she just isn't romantically attracted to you. Life is too short to hang around for her. Do you want to spend the rest of your life single waiting for a girl who MIGHT come back to you. Forget about her, easier said than done though I know.
You should travel Europe for a bit. Girls love well travelled cultured people.
And icognito, sure its fine to date and have lots of partners but what about the emotions involved? Is love just a casual past time now? This girl had him go all the way to Demark for her. Oh yeah but she is young and confused so it's ok?
Good luck.
Maybe she is not ready yet ...living together is aint easy these days maybe she couldn't cope and felt little responsibility and pressure.Take it easy as i can see her intentions are gud coz she said it to you that Possibility of being together again is there....apart of being friends all the times ...give her space let her think of herself and see what suitable for both of you ...give her the dog as a memory and if u really like n love her u can make the dog an excuse to visit her always !!!
Sometimes we take decisions fast that later we find ourself not able to take them onhold ..u just wait be patient and time will tell ...ur both still young and time is there !!!
Gud luck
This is what happened...You are 21, she is 19...You two are still at an age where your mind is mostly dominated by your hormones...( don't object to it, trust me I've been there just like millions of other people)
At this age, you should date as many people as you like and enjoy life. Your mind, body, maturity and experience level is not yet ready to handle such a relationship and commitment.
I congratulate her for doing the right thing...She is so young and wants to explore the world and learn more about herself along the way...I think you should do the same...
P.S: Dog is an excuse and you know it...:)How can i deal with this break up?? We were together for 3 years!! Thanks for any help anyone has!?
Tell her to stop messing you around and tell you whats going on. She can't do this to you...Maybe she just said it to get your attention?
Talk to her, find out what shes planning.
i went throught a similar thing we had a dog for about 2 months before we split but the dog is not ur concern, sorry mate but u need to giv her an ultimatum which is either ur with me or ur not, if your not thats fine but move out so i can move on cos i cant while u are here, if we are then u are and work through ur issues.
she is being selfish and only thinking about herself tho, it sounds like she wants to go and experiment other people as she may feel like she is missing out (on the dating game) cos u have been together since she was 16, she mite need a bit of time to make her realise that you are the one for her and 8 times out of ten they do come back.
i wish u all the luck.
Sorry but no excuses. This woman has taken advantage of you. She must have known all along she didn't want something serious yet had you going all the way to Europe to live with her. She basically wants sex and attention without any emotional comittment. Maybe she just isn't romantically attracted to you. Life is too short to hang around for her. Do you want to spend the rest of your life single waiting for a girl who MIGHT come back to you. Forget about her, easier said than done though I know.
You should travel Europe for a bit. Girls love well travelled cultured people.
And icognito, sure its fine to date and have lots of partners but what about the emotions involved? Is love just a casual past time now? This girl had him go all the way to Demark for her. Oh yeah but she is young and confused so it's ok?
Good luck.
Maybe she is not ready yet ...living together is aint easy these days maybe she couldn't cope and felt little responsibility and pressure.Take it easy as i can see her intentions are gud coz she said it to you that Possibility of being together again is there....apart of being friends all the times ...give her space let her think of herself and see what suitable for both of you ...give her the dog as a memory and if u really like n love her u can make the dog an excuse to visit her always !!!
Sometimes we take decisions fast that later we find ourself not able to take them onhold ..u just wait be patient and time will tell ...ur both still young and time is there !!!
Gud luck
How do I deal with a break up like this?
My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday. We've dated for a year, and have been friends for over 5. She kind of blindisded me. We've had problems with petty arguments, but since December we've been trying to work on them. We haven't had an argument or anything in over 3 weeks. Yesterday she comes over and says she wants to break up, that she doens't love me anymore, and some other hurtful things. She later said she only pretended to be as cold and confident as she was because she thought it would be easier for me. I'm just numb right now, and have been all yesterday and all today. I'm not planning on contacting her, but is she hurt too? Part of me doesnt want her too, but it'd be nice to know she cares. It's all just such a shock. I don't think she was mature enough to handle what a real relationship is, which often involves arguments sometimes and not ALWAYS feeling butterflies and fireworks to see the other person. I've been through several break ups, and know the basics -- don't call her, stay busy, etc, but this was one of my best friends..How do I deal with a break up like this?
I went through the same thing and it sucks. I guarantee she is hurting as much as you because a part of you is stuck with her. She's not a robot and I'm sure she is crying too. All I can say is take your time, and it's very likely she'll want to be friends again (at least my ex did). Make sure you take plenty of time to yourself and just relax. You'll remember her and she'll always remember you. It sucks, but **** happens...at least that's what forrest gump taught me.
Good Luck
I went through the same thing and it sucks. I guarantee she is hurting as much as you because a part of you is stuck with her. She's not a robot and I'm sure she is crying too. All I can say is take your time, and it's very likely she'll want to be friends again (at least my ex did). Make sure you take plenty of time to yourself and just relax. You'll remember her and she'll always remember you. It sucks, but **** happens...at least that's what forrest gump taught me.
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How to deal with a break-up?
you guys are going to think i am so effed up. i am dating a guy right now, two months ago a boyfriend of five years broke up with me. i want to be with the guy i am with right now, give him a real chance, and have a break from the ex boyfriend for a while, but about once every two weeks i have these days where i have break downs emotionally over the ex. it's really like someone died in my life and i have never lost by death someone this close to me before. i actually had to get a counselor for this. they say some things take time. but when these days hit i feel like even they don't understand that i just can't wait to get over this because it hurts so much (grief has more to do with losing the friend he was to me). does anyone have ideas to help me with this? i'm just so tired of hurting, not mad i care about him this much, just don't want to hurt.How to deal with a break-up?
You need to just cherish the good times you had with this guy and move on with your life. It is going to take time and sometimes you never get over them they will always be in the back of your mind so the easy way to deal with this is to think about the good you had together. Start focusing on making yourself better before you start dating someone else. In order for anything to work between you and someone else you first have to be healed and feel like you can move on. Its not bad to be alone for awhile it helps youfind your true self and making decisions about things like this alot easier.How to deal with a break-up?
i find smoking a joint helps!-but its not for everyone.
You need to just cherish the good times you had with this guy and move on with your life. It is going to take time and sometimes you never get over them they will always be in the back of your mind so the easy way to deal with this is to think about the good you had together. Start focusing on making yourself better before you start dating someone else. In order for anything to work between you and someone else you first have to be healed and feel like you can move on. Its not bad to be alone for awhile it helps youfind your true self and making decisions about things like this alot easier.How to deal with a break-up?
i find smoking a joint helps!-but its not for everyone.
How to deal with a break up?
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he was my first love and i was genuinely in love with him.. head over heels. i met him in september 2007. thats the last time i recall ever liking a guy... soon after i met him we hit it off, it was quick and sudden but we couldnt help ourselves. i was with him for a month, we had a little break in the middle of there and got back together in dec 07. we were together from then since two weeks ago. our 2 year anniversary was going to be later this month. everything was perfect up until about 3 and a half months ago id say.. and by perfect i dont mean we never argued. in fact we often did but we learned to overcome those petty obstacles and nothing could tear us apart. we just sat and coped hand in hand.
until a few months ago.. we argued so much the month or two before that it was unreal. we picked fights with each other for absolutely no reason.. (more so me, i will admit). we were sick of it and had a huge argument. being as stubborn as we are.. we stopped talking for two months, TWO MONTHS.. still carrying the label of boyfriend and girlfriend and being faithful. but in those two months a lot changed.. its hard to go from spending all day, everyday with someone to not speaking with them for two months due to stupid pride and stubbornness. he flirted with several girls, there were points in those two months without me that he seemed completely fine but he told me it was just a front he put on. nonetheless, things happened and after i finally stopped all of the nonsense and worked up the courage to apologize him and get back to the way we used to be.. i felt i couldnt. he agreed. i felt weird and confused about what was going on with us and a little betrayed for i dont know what. he really didnt put forth an effort to try to change that like he always used to.. so we just sort of started drifting apart.. he told me he didnt want to rush into things and call me his girlfriend again and that just made me feel even worse. he knew it did but he didnt say anything about it.
after a month of holding onto something that felt like nothing, i decided we should break up. he agreed. it was like talking to a whole other person after that two month long fight, so much had changed and it felt wrong. we didn't communicate the same way anymore, not even act the same way anymore. it really threw us off
now it's been two weeks and he seems fine without me. hes doing things he used to do with me and treating others how he treated me already. several girls actually. i feel sick to my stomach and if he does too he has a great way of hiding it. i feel miserable and disrespected considering all the time and effort and energy i always spent on him and only him has gone to waste. it seems it wasn't hard for him at all but it couldnt be any harder on me. how do i feel better? how do i get rid of this emptiness and move on since its clear he already has.. im a lost cause. someone help? thank you so much if you read even a portion of this.. believe it or not this was in a nutshell. thank youHow to deal with a break up?
It's hard for you to feel better, because you aren't. It takes time to. You know you've to move on. So have a break, relax, do things you like to do, make new friends, etc. Just do anything that can make you happy. Be confident of yourself. Cheer up. :)Bounce back error message received from myspace games
he was my first love and i was genuinely in love with him.. head over heels. i met him in september 2007. thats the last time i recall ever liking a guy... soon after i met him we hit it off, it was quick and sudden but we couldnt help ourselves. i was with him for a month, we had a little break in the middle of there and got back together in dec 07. we were together from then since two weeks ago. our 2 year anniversary was going to be later this month. everything was perfect up until about 3 and a half months ago id say.. and by perfect i dont mean we never argued. in fact we often did but we learned to overcome those petty obstacles and nothing could tear us apart. we just sat and coped hand in hand.
until a few months ago.. we argued so much the month or two before that it was unreal. we picked fights with each other for absolutely no reason.. (more so me, i will admit). we were sick of it and had a huge argument. being as stubborn as we are.. we stopped talking for two months, TWO MONTHS.. still carrying the label of boyfriend and girlfriend and being faithful. but in those two months a lot changed.. its hard to go from spending all day, everyday with someone to not speaking with them for two months due to stupid pride and stubbornness. he flirted with several girls, there were points in those two months without me that he seemed completely fine but he told me it was just a front he put on. nonetheless, things happened and after i finally stopped all of the nonsense and worked up the courage to apologize him and get back to the way we used to be.. i felt i couldnt. he agreed. i felt weird and confused about what was going on with us and a little betrayed for i dont know what. he really didnt put forth an effort to try to change that like he always used to.. so we just sort of started drifting apart.. he told me he didnt want to rush into things and call me his girlfriend again and that just made me feel even worse. he knew it did but he didnt say anything about it.
after a month of holding onto something that felt like nothing, i decided we should break up. he agreed. it was like talking to a whole other person after that two month long fight, so much had changed and it felt wrong. we didn't communicate the same way anymore, not even act the same way anymore. it really threw us off
now it's been two weeks and he seems fine without me. hes doing things he used to do with me and treating others how he treated me already. several girls actually. i feel sick to my stomach and if he does too he has a great way of hiding it. i feel miserable and disrespected considering all the time and effort and energy i always spent on him and only him has gone to waste. it seems it wasn't hard for him at all but it couldnt be any harder on me. how do i feel better? how do i get rid of this emptiness and move on since its clear he already has.. im a lost cause. someone help? thank you so much if you read even a portion of this.. believe it or not this was in a nutshell. thank youHow to deal with a break up?
It's hard for you to feel better, because you aren't. It takes time to. You know you've to move on. So have a break, relax, do things you like to do, make new friends, etc. Just do anything that can make you happy. Be confident of yourself. Cheer up. :)
How do you deal with a break up like this?
My boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago [he broke it off], and I never saw it coming. We dated for 14 months, but not once did he tell me he loved me. Despite that, we had a great relationship, or so I thought. We still talked pretty much everyday for the past month and I thought we had agreed to try to work on things, and if they got better, we would start over...
Well, this weekend he told me that he started dating [3 WEEKS AFTER WE BROKE UP!], and I had to pull it out of him. He answers all my questions with questions, and he is being so immature (BTW, i'm 22 and he's 26). How do you start dating 3 weeks after you break up with someone?
I can't believe he would ever do this to me. I am so disappointed and hurt, and he won't even talk to me about things. We spoke through text and he said that he agreed with me that we don't have to end things hating each other, but then he said ';we'll continue this but now it's bedtime';, and that was 2 days ago, and we haven't spoken since. I don't know what to do...please help :'(
I can't even decide how I feel. one minute I'm really angry and know that I deserve better, then the next minute iIm crying because I don't want him to be with someone else (especially so soon)
I'm just so lonely. I think about him all the time. and of course I have that fear in the back of my mind that I won't find someone else, even though I know its probably not true...How do you deal with a break up like this?
Amy, as a guy myself and as a watcher of people, I can say that guys have a tendency to get over relationships really fast. Also, considering he's the one that broke it off, I hate to say, he was probably preparing himself for the break-up before actually doing it. So it didnt hit him hard when it happened. I know this because I did it myself. I prepared myself for my most recent break-up a few weeks in advance. And out of respect for my Ex, I will most likely wait to get in another relationship for a little bit. Which is probably what he did.
Also, guys typically dont like controversy when it comes to women and we are also, typically, the type of people that like things straight up. If you want to talk to us about something, it's best just to come straight forward and say ';Hey....'; instead of beating around the bush and hinting at things.
In all honesty, guys are dumb creatures when it comes to stuff like that. You beat around the bush and we see the thing you're ';using'; to beat around the bush but not the bush itself. We see the action not whats near the action. So yeah, best bet, if you have an issue, just talk to him. Otherwise, let him go, he was obviously not worth your time hun. :)
Also, if you need someone to talk to, I have my messenger listed on my profile, so feel free to send me an IM or something.How do you deal with a break up like this?
he did not break it up to not cheat on you he was already cheating on you. he never told you that he loved you...he is a jerk...and all you can do is stop talking to him because he doesnt even deserve you as a friend
its been a year for me and i still think about my ex but it doesnt feel that bad anymore so just be patient
I know how you feel, that has happened to me too. But over time you will gradually start to get over him. For now you should go outside hang out with your friends or family to help you through this tough time. Or go play sports to get your mind off of him, because you can't just spend all your time feeling bad about yourself.
It seems like he is a little insecure. Some advice that got me through a situation like the one you're in: If you love somebody, let them go. They will come back to you if they truly feel the same way about you.
Leave him alone you crazy *****. Just because you dated him doesnt mean that you can control his life, Move on, he did, so should you, Show him you dont need him MOVE ON!
He's moving on. Maybe you should try to do the same. I know that it's hard but you can through this!!
Maybe it broke it off in order to not cheat on you.
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Hey Amy im sorry to hear that.But i know just how you feel.My xgf just broke up with me two months ago after four great years i thought things where good and she was happy and i never saw it coming either you know when she told me it was over on the phone i thought she was jokeing or something but it was no joke for the first week or two she was all i thought about its hard to let someone just go like that i loved her a lot but for him not to say he loved you its a little off you know i dont know him or you but if you think you cant go with out him then tell him how you feel and if its not meant to be then tell your self you loved all that you could love and sounds like you loved him a lot so you know what it is his loss you sound like a good cairing person i wish i could meet a girl like you but like thay say there are a lot of fish in the sea and one day you will find someone to love you as much as you love them and you know my x is 21 im 23 we are all still young and i promise as each day goes by you will think of him less and less till one day you wake up and wont think of him at all and that day will be a great day! i promis time heals all wonds and for this i dont know if what i sayd will help you i hope it does if you would like to talk some time that would cool you can write me some time if you want my email jessesimon23@yahoo.com
Well, this weekend he told me that he started dating [3 WEEKS AFTER WE BROKE UP!], and I had to pull it out of him. He answers all my questions with questions, and he is being so immature (BTW, i'm 22 and he's 26). How do you start dating 3 weeks after you break up with someone?
I can't believe he would ever do this to me. I am so disappointed and hurt, and he won't even talk to me about things. We spoke through text and he said that he agreed with me that we don't have to end things hating each other, but then he said ';we'll continue this but now it's bedtime';, and that was 2 days ago, and we haven't spoken since. I don't know what to do...please help :'(
I can't even decide how I feel. one minute I'm really angry and know that I deserve better, then the next minute iIm crying because I don't want him to be with someone else (especially so soon)
I'm just so lonely. I think about him all the time. and of course I have that fear in the back of my mind that I won't find someone else, even though I know its probably not true...How do you deal with a break up like this?
Amy, as a guy myself and as a watcher of people, I can say that guys have a tendency to get over relationships really fast. Also, considering he's the one that broke it off, I hate to say, he was probably preparing himself for the break-up before actually doing it. So it didnt hit him hard when it happened. I know this because I did it myself. I prepared myself for my most recent break-up a few weeks in advance. And out of respect for my Ex, I will most likely wait to get in another relationship for a little bit. Which is probably what he did.
Also, guys typically dont like controversy when it comes to women and we are also, typically, the type of people that like things straight up. If you want to talk to us about something, it's best just to come straight forward and say ';Hey....'; instead of beating around the bush and hinting at things.
In all honesty, guys are dumb creatures when it comes to stuff like that. You beat around the bush and we see the thing you're ';using'; to beat around the bush but not the bush itself. We see the action not whats near the action. So yeah, best bet, if you have an issue, just talk to him. Otherwise, let him go, he was obviously not worth your time hun. :)
Also, if you need someone to talk to, I have my messenger listed on my profile, so feel free to send me an IM or something.How do you deal with a break up like this?
he did not break it up to not cheat on you he was already cheating on you. he never told you that he loved you...he is a jerk...and all you can do is stop talking to him because he doesnt even deserve you as a friend
its been a year for me and i still think about my ex but it doesnt feel that bad anymore so just be patient
I know how you feel, that has happened to me too. But over time you will gradually start to get over him. For now you should go outside hang out with your friends or family to help you through this tough time. Or go play sports to get your mind off of him, because you can't just spend all your time feeling bad about yourself.
It seems like he is a little insecure. Some advice that got me through a situation like the one you're in: If you love somebody, let them go. They will come back to you if they truly feel the same way about you.
Leave him alone you crazy *****. Just because you dated him doesnt mean that you can control his life, Move on, he did, so should you, Show him you dont need him MOVE ON!
He's moving on. Maybe you should try to do the same. I know that it's hard but you can through this!!
Maybe it broke it off in order to not cheat on you.
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Hey Amy im sorry to hear that.But i know just how you feel.My xgf just broke up with me two months ago after four great years i thought things where good and she was happy and i never saw it coming either you know when she told me it was over on the phone i thought she was jokeing or something but it was no joke for the first week or two she was all i thought about its hard to let someone just go like that i loved her a lot but for him not to say he loved you its a little off you know i dont know him or you but if you think you cant go with out him then tell him how you feel and if its not meant to be then tell your self you loved all that you could love and sounds like you loved him a lot so you know what it is his loss you sound like a good cairing person i wish i could meet a girl like you but like thay say there are a lot of fish in the sea and one day you will find someone to love you as much as you love them and you know my x is 21 im 23 we are all still young and i promise as each day goes by you will think of him less and less till one day you wake up and wont think of him at all and that day will be a great day! i promis time heals all wonds and for this i dont know if what i sayd will help you i hope it does if you would like to talk some time that would cool you can write me some time if you want my email jessesimon23@yahoo.com
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ok, so we been togther for 1yr 7 months.. the first yr would be great.. but then its like he took me for granted. I do all the effort, while he does nothing to make me happy. When we met it was all good thoug..lots of hugs and kisses and sweet words. but when were not together, ok he calls , but its not like it ws beore.. he says i requir too much attention and im never happy, while iid everything to please him1 So yesterday, an argument led us to breaking up with me, becuase he is fed up of that. I was getting fed uup of his attitude too, but i wanted to talk and make things better, but now there is no way going back. I just feel like we broke up over no solid base.. even though it was coming, it was harsh.. he wanted to ened it. and maybe he done right. But I love him so much. I truley believe he is my soulmate. we think the same, at the same time of the same thing, we like the same things everything. I just dnt know how to deal with this sad ending. Youmight tell me to go out and stuff, but I cant get myself to do that. I just want him here with me, especially that we had a great weekend planned out. I just needed to feel wanted thats all. And now im feeling much worse not seeing him.The best way to deal with a break up?:S?
break ups are hard, especially when you've been with that person so long but everyone goes through them, it's just the way of life. my ex said the same to me about requiring too much attention when we broke up - i still felt like we were together and i wanted to talk to him like all the time! and when he said we'd stay friends, i just didn't think much different of it, i just treated him the same cos i loved him and i was trying to hold on to everything we had but now, i'm also losing his friendship and two months after the split, i'm still finding it hard - i can't enjoy myself, i'm always upset, i feel like dying most of the time when he don't speak to me! i feel like i need him in my life to be happy - but the past few nights, i've been thinking, cos i have a new boyfriend and he understands the whole situation with me and my ex, i cut his name into my wrist when we were together - so a lot went on and he hurt me a lot and i hurt him but now i've been thinking - he ruined my life, seriously, i cried every night that me and him were together cos he hurt me so much! not physically but emotionally! he made me lose all my friends, my family, didn't let me go out with friends and it's took me so long to realise all this! and still, i've not let go, i'm still trying to save our friendship - after everything. i'll never let go and i believe that the reason behind that is cos i love him, i've never loved anyone like my ex and i've had longer relationships than me and him and i've been treated so much better than i was by him but like you, i believe he's my soulmate and when you believe that, it's worth holding on to. try and stay friends with your ex, maybe a break is what you two need :) i hope things work out and if you want to talk then you're welcome to e-mail me (not using IM atm) and i'll speak to you through that but keep smiling sweetie, things will get better, it may take time but remember things ALWAYS get better if you let them.
break ups are hard, especially when you've been with that person so long but everyone goes through them, it's just the way of life. my ex said the same to me about requiring too much attention when we broke up - i still felt like we were together and i wanted to talk to him like all the time! and when he said we'd stay friends, i just didn't think much different of it, i just treated him the same cos i loved him and i was trying to hold on to everything we had but now, i'm also losing his friendship and two months after the split, i'm still finding it hard - i can't enjoy myself, i'm always upset, i feel like dying most of the time when he don't speak to me! i feel like i need him in my life to be happy - but the past few nights, i've been thinking, cos i have a new boyfriend and he understands the whole situation with me and my ex, i cut his name into my wrist when we were together - so a lot went on and he hurt me a lot and i hurt him but now i've been thinking - he ruined my life, seriously, i cried every night that me and him were together cos he hurt me so much! not physically but emotionally! he made me lose all my friends, my family, didn't let me go out with friends and it's took me so long to realise all this! and still, i've not let go, i'm still trying to save our friendship - after everything. i'll never let go and i believe that the reason behind that is cos i love him, i've never loved anyone like my ex and i've had longer relationships than me and him and i've been treated so much better than i was by him but like you, i believe he's my soulmate and when you believe that, it's worth holding on to. try and stay friends with your ex, maybe a break is what you two need :) i hope things work out and if you want to talk then you're welcome to e-mail me (not using IM atm) and i'll speak to you through that but keep smiling sweetie, things will get better, it may take time but remember things ALWAYS get better if you let them.
How do I deal with a break up?
My ex boyfriend and I dated for eight months. We broke up in November, because he thought we were getting too serious. We missed each other too much so we got back together. Then two weeks later he went to visit his friends in Alabama and they partied the whole time. I don't trust him when he drinks so I was very insecure when he was gone. When he came back I was supposed to meet the rest of his family at Thanksgiving. We broke up when he got back, because he called me one night and told me ';he could do whatever he wanted'; I should have disregarded his rude comment because he was drunk. Well we stayed apart for two months. During that time we did talk and hook up. I knew it was the wrong thing to do, but I missed him too much. We got back together on his terms. He wanted a ';loose'; relationship. I had no idea what he was talking about. But I could tell things were different this time around. He never planned to see me. He just hung out with his friends. The whole time we dated his friends gave us a really hard time calling him whipped. I think that put stressed on our relationship. I decided that I wasn't happy and I ended it again. This time I know I'm not going back out with him because he told me he was just using me for sex and didn't care about me anymore. I don't know how to handle this situation. It's been a few weeks since I ended it and I go to school with him. I keep hearing stories about him hooking up with girls, but I'm not ready to date again. So how do I handle my break up when I see him everyday?How do I deal with a break up?
Somewhere around the time where yall were dating, you probably lost some friends. They aren't gone forever, but since you spent all the time you could with that guy and without anyone else, they just got put on hold. Now they will be more than willing to be with you again. Use their support to help you get over him.
Somewhere around the time where yall were dating, you probably lost some friends. They aren't gone forever, but since you spent all the time you could with that guy and without anyone else, they just got put on hold. Now they will be more than willing to be with you again. Use their support to help you get over him.
How To Deal With This Break Up..?
I'm 19 shes 18 and she was my first long term relationship. We lived together for about 5 months and yes things moved a little too quickly but it felt right at the time. Alot of firsts for both of us. Everyone swore we were going to get married. So 6 months ago the broke up happened she got rid of me. Things got bad, I was the one trying to crawl back to her and she didn't want anything to do with me. So just recently about a month ago I added her number back in my phone one morning and wouldn't you know that night she contacts me. I thought that was very weird and maybe ';fate'; had something to do with it. Christmas eve I contact her to say merry xmas after not talking to her for about a week or so and she calls me crying telling me how much she loves me and she wanted to see me. So the past 2 days I have been chilling with her and honestly I haven't been that happy since the break up. Talked last night and I told her exactly how I felt about her still and she said she still loved me but she couldn't go through all that again. So of course I was upset about this but I was happy to be with her. Over all the past 6 months I have felt the lowest I have ever felt in my life. Lost most of my friends, her and nothing seems to be going right. Lost little over 30 pounds since we broke up and it continues to drop. I find my self crying at least everyday over her and I don't know why. Still have trouble eating and sleeping and now it feels like my heart has been ripped back out and stepped on. I don't know what to do anymore. Pretty sure Ive slipped into a state of depression and need professional help. Who knows.How To Deal With This Break Up..?
Well it sounds like if you grew a pair then maybe you could hang onto this chick. Treat her like crap for a minute or two and then ignore her. Find some other chick and make her think yall are having sex, or have sex, whatever, make her jealous and she'll be back in no time. Then when she comes back make her say ';I'm with you now and I am never going to run out on you again';, like your John Dillinger on Public Enimies. Man up Justin you sound like a little b****. Women don't like that. Did you ever stop to think that while your at home crying and watching dances with wolves she is probably out riding some d*** somewhere? Now go to the strip club like a normal guy you loser.How To Deal With This Break Up..?
Yeah dude,she ain't worth it..That's like teasing,even worse...There are plenty fish in the sea,and you can take on anyone you like...So,simply,end it..Relax...
As for the friends,they aren't real friends if they abandoned you.
Weight can easily be restored..;)
i've had this happen before...
well, i know you think you love her, but she sounds like she doesn't know what she wants, she should come back to you when she knows exactly how she feels.
good luck dude, i wish you guys the best
Awh! You poor thing, I would say like a therapist or something along those lines ..
Ba mhaith liom t煤 go l茅ir is fearr .. :]
yea go see a shrink they'll help you if your depressed
move on....
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I know how you feel. I've been in a about 5 month relationship with a guy once too. I just tried to move on from him and I suggest doing the same. If you find this hard then try getting into activities that will keep your mind off of her. For example I never would have gotten into acting or tennis if he didn't cheat on me. Though you should ask why she broke up with you in the first place. For your friends maybe they think you need some time to recover. Talk to a really good friend that is still with you and let it all out. Just get out more, it's proven that people who are going through depression feel better when they are outside or exercising. I hope this helps.
You may have minor depression but I do not think you have a depression disorder. There is no best way to deal with a break up, at least thats what I think. You never start a relationship and plan for it to fail, you plan for it to work.When it falls apart you feel like you have lost your only shot to be with someone, that you will never feel like that with anyone again and so on.You need to start hanging out with your friends and as hard as it is life goes on.If you really cannot move on maybe see a doctor but once you meet someone new you will feel great again.
Oh come on pal, it's your first relationship pull yourself together. Have some drinks, go clubbing and meet new girls. It's easy, clubs often have an excess of females.
The introduction to relationships is hard, but now you know what to expect you can go into things knowing what you are doing.
We've all been there. Rejection is the worst feeling in the world.
Have you considered that if she said that to you, maybe YOU don't want her? I wouldn't be focused on what other people say or superstition because that makes a ';failure'; twenty times worse because you feel like you've let everyone down and this isn't your fault.
You maybe depressed. Go to the doctor and see what he recommends.
You need to get back out on the dating scene so that you're aware of yourself as a man. This will help boost your self esteem.
Stay away from this lady for awhile and don't dwell on what was or what could have been. It only breaks you down more. Think about what you got planned for Friday night and whatever else you have going on in your life.
One more thing, helping others brings joy back into your life...even if it's just having a visit with someone like your Grandma or a friend who hasn't seen you in awhile!
You've got it pretty bad, but this is how many of us get. Professional help is actually really enjoyable to be able to say everything that's on your mind with out someone making a comment like ';end it all, man.';
Things do get better, but you have to quit contacting her. It only resets how long it's going to take to get over her. There is a great article about the No Contact Rule here:
You need to get her out of your life. Just try to forget everything that you can about her and your relationship together. You are trying to live in the past and that isn't healthy. You should try going out with friends and looking for someone else. Sometimes you just need a distraction to start feeling better again. It's going to take time, especially since you guys were so close. It isn't going to help if you see her. Although it feels good at the time it is just going to make you suffer when you aren't with her. She doesn't want to get back with you, but she misses you. What you need to do is think of yourself before her. Just because she wants to see you doesn't mean that you have to. She broke up with you, so she made the choice to possibly loose you and loose the friendship you guys had. When my boyfriend broke up with me I tried EVERYTHING to get back with him! I would always text him and try and make him see that we still belonged together and he wanted to be friends but he really didn't want more than that. So I eventually stopped texting him and over time I slowly started to heal. Some days were worse than others, but I survived. Eventually I met someone else who was really nice and I started to like him. The day I started liking this new guy, all my old feelings for my ex just flew right out the door. I could care less about him now. Granted all of this didn't happen over night. It took me many months to get over my ex and during those months it felt impossible to be able to replace him. But after a while your heart will just move on.
First of all, if you think you need professional help, why not go out and find some? There is nothing wrong about needing someone to talk to, sometimes friends aren't enough. A therapist will help you sort through your feelings and put things into perspective much more than the internet.
But if you will hear any internet advice, hear this. Sometimes relationships go south. Sometimes one person decides he's had enough, and the other is left hanging. It hurts, but sometimes we're forced to move on.
Should you decide not to move on, that she's the one you want, you gotta change some of your behaviors pronto. I don't expect to have a deep insight on your psychology, but it sounds to me you have some deep neediness issues. I find that if one isn't comfortable with loneliness, one will be unable to have a healthy relationship of any kind, because it becomes a salve to heal your loneliness, and you become addicted to it. So my advice is to back away for a while, let her sort through her feelings while you deal with yours first. It doesn't matter if she loves you more than anything in the world, if you're not ready to have a healthy relationship, you shouldn't embark on one.
Well it sounds like if you grew a pair then maybe you could hang onto this chick. Treat her like crap for a minute or two and then ignore her. Find some other chick and make her think yall are having sex, or have sex, whatever, make her jealous and she'll be back in no time. Then when she comes back make her say ';I'm with you now and I am never going to run out on you again';, like your John Dillinger on Public Enimies. Man up Justin you sound like a little b****. Women don't like that. Did you ever stop to think that while your at home crying and watching dances with wolves she is probably out riding some d*** somewhere? Now go to the strip club like a normal guy you loser.How To Deal With This Break Up..?
Yeah dude,she ain't worth it..That's like teasing,even worse...There are plenty fish in the sea,and you can take on anyone you like...So,simply,end it..Relax...
As for the friends,they aren't real friends if they abandoned you.
Weight can easily be restored..;)
i've had this happen before...
well, i know you think you love her, but she sounds like she doesn't know what she wants, she should come back to you when she knows exactly how she feels.
good luck dude, i wish you guys the best
Awh! You poor thing, I would say like a therapist or something along those lines ..
Ba mhaith liom t煤 go l茅ir is fearr .. :]
yea go see a shrink they'll help you if your depressed
move on....
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I know how you feel. I've been in a about 5 month relationship with a guy once too. I just tried to move on from him and I suggest doing the same. If you find this hard then try getting into activities that will keep your mind off of her. For example I never would have gotten into acting or tennis if he didn't cheat on me. Though you should ask why she broke up with you in the first place. For your friends maybe they think you need some time to recover. Talk to a really good friend that is still with you and let it all out. Just get out more, it's proven that people who are going through depression feel better when they are outside or exercising. I hope this helps.
You may have minor depression but I do not think you have a depression disorder. There is no best way to deal with a break up, at least thats what I think. You never start a relationship and plan for it to fail, you plan for it to work.When it falls apart you feel like you have lost your only shot to be with someone, that you will never feel like that with anyone again and so on.You need to start hanging out with your friends and as hard as it is life goes on.If you really cannot move on maybe see a doctor but once you meet someone new you will feel great again.
Oh come on pal, it's your first relationship pull yourself together. Have some drinks, go clubbing and meet new girls. It's easy, clubs often have an excess of females.
The introduction to relationships is hard, but now you know what to expect you can go into things knowing what you are doing.
We've all been there. Rejection is the worst feeling in the world.
Have you considered that if she said that to you, maybe YOU don't want her? I wouldn't be focused on what other people say or superstition because that makes a ';failure'; twenty times worse because you feel like you've let everyone down and this isn't your fault.
You maybe depressed. Go to the doctor and see what he recommends.
You need to get back out on the dating scene so that you're aware of yourself as a man. This will help boost your self esteem.
Stay away from this lady for awhile and don't dwell on what was or what could have been. It only breaks you down more. Think about what you got planned for Friday night and whatever else you have going on in your life.
One more thing, helping others brings joy back into your life...even if it's just having a visit with someone like your Grandma or a friend who hasn't seen you in awhile!
You've got it pretty bad, but this is how many of us get. Professional help is actually really enjoyable to be able to say everything that's on your mind with out someone making a comment like ';end it all, man.';
Things do get better, but you have to quit contacting her. It only resets how long it's going to take to get over her. There is a great article about the No Contact Rule here:
You need to get her out of your life. Just try to forget everything that you can about her and your relationship together. You are trying to live in the past and that isn't healthy. You should try going out with friends and looking for someone else. Sometimes you just need a distraction to start feeling better again. It's going to take time, especially since you guys were so close. It isn't going to help if you see her. Although it feels good at the time it is just going to make you suffer when you aren't with her. She doesn't want to get back with you, but she misses you. What you need to do is think of yourself before her. Just because she wants to see you doesn't mean that you have to. She broke up with you, so she made the choice to possibly loose you and loose the friendship you guys had. When my boyfriend broke up with me I tried EVERYTHING to get back with him! I would always text him and try and make him see that we still belonged together and he wanted to be friends but he really didn't want more than that. So I eventually stopped texting him and over time I slowly started to heal. Some days were worse than others, but I survived. Eventually I met someone else who was really nice and I started to like him. The day I started liking this new guy, all my old feelings for my ex just flew right out the door. I could care less about him now. Granted all of this didn't happen over night. It took me many months to get over my ex and during those months it felt impossible to be able to replace him. But after a while your heart will just move on.
First of all, if you think you need professional help, why not go out and find some? There is nothing wrong about needing someone to talk to, sometimes friends aren't enough. A therapist will help you sort through your feelings and put things into perspective much more than the internet.
But if you will hear any internet advice, hear this. Sometimes relationships go south. Sometimes one person decides he's had enough, and the other is left hanging. It hurts, but sometimes we're forced to move on.
Should you decide not to move on, that she's the one you want, you gotta change some of your behaviors pronto. I don't expect to have a deep insight on your psychology, but it sounds to me you have some deep neediness issues. I find that if one isn't comfortable with loneliness, one will be unable to have a healthy relationship of any kind, because it becomes a salve to heal your loneliness, and you become addicted to it. So my advice is to back away for a while, let her sort through her feelings while you deal with yours first. It doesn't matter if she loves you more than anything in the world, if you're not ready to have a healthy relationship, you shouldn't embark on one.
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